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bgwcl is offline bgwcl Post #11  January 20,2012, 2:47pm
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Thanks for all this advice, everyone! I'll certainly act upon it
 
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BikerBeagle is offline BikerBeagle Post #12  January 21,2012, 2:57am
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thinks everyone should just ask themselves, WWBBD?

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I'm seeing this differently than everyone else, apparently. The only positive interest the OP gets from this gal is in private environments ...FB chat (I'm assuming), texts, alone in a park late at night ...but in public environments where her friends can see, she's cold as ice - even actively avoiding him. That's gotta say something ...and, to me, it says she's 1) embarrassed by him or 2) more likely using him for attention and an emotional ego boost (cuddle buddy) when she's alone - but when she's getting those 'needs' met by other people in a public setting, she has no use for the him.

I forsee a "let's just be friends" conversation in the OPs future.

IF (and that's a really big IF in my opinion), she agrees to go out on a date with him -and he needs to be very clear that it is a "date" and not "hanging out"- she's probably going to want to "go slow", "not label it", or somehow keep it a secret.
 
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i_remember is offline i_remember Post #13  January 21,2012, 6:19am
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@OP: Seriously, in 2.5 years you can't muster up the courage to ask her out for a date?

I have a feeling you were friend zoned a long, long time ago. Good luck in trying to make the transition but your lack of making a move at the appropriate time and allowing the penpal relationship to go on so long means this is probably DOA.
 
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bgwcl is offline bgwcl Post #14  January 21,2012, 3:14pm
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Ah my bad, I meant 2010. But yeh, I know, too long, I've made so many mistakes.
 
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tink333 is offline tink333 — Advice Member-Moderator Post #15  January 22,2012, 8:20pm
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bgwcl wrote :
Ah my bad, I meant 2010. But yeh, I know, too long, I've made so many mistakes.
You'll never know if she's interested (or not as BikerBeagle suggests) until and unless you ask her out.

For future reference, would you pretty please write in paragraphs next time? It is really difficult to read a post that one huge long paragraph.

Thanks, and good luck.
 
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