Flirting With My Man

I don't have a lot to add but nice to see you!!!

True or not, I'd be more concerned w/ why he told you. If you were completely unaware (which you say you were) of the situation, there should have been nothing to tell.

But, the possibility is always present that she did (or a friend of hers, etc.) Thus, by me being honest I avoid the risk that she did see, and I then concealed, and she then gets suspicious.

Hi all,

I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now. Things have been pretty smooth sailing for the relationship despite his ex-gf messaged me on Facebook to start drama but other than that, things are good. We have good trust in one another and we are in love.

I'm not totally bothered by something that happened last week but I guess I am just looking for some sort of reasoning as to why some women will hit on a man even if it's pretty darn obvious they are taken.

Last week, my bf and I were having a nice dinner out. I hadn't seen him in a week (he lives 2 1/2 hours away) and he's grabbing my hands from across the table and kissing them, telling me things like "Have I told you how beautiful you are today?" I dunno, looks pretty darn obvious we are together and that I am not his sister, mother, cousin, best friend or anything less than a significant other. Anyhow, I get up to use the restroom and when I return to the table he is putting his jacket on and had paid the ticket already. I was gone like 3 minutes! So as soon as I return to the table, we leave and walk past a table behind ours that has our male waiter now sitting down with 2 female waitresses that work there.

My bf says "hey, thanks a lot man" and reaches out his hand to shake our waiter's hand (because my guy is just super friendly like that). Apparently one of the females says "See you in Hawaii" (which I didn't hear but he told me later what that was about.

My bf said all through dinner he could see out of the corner of his eye that a female sitting at the table behind me was staring at him. He was looking me in the eyes a good 90% of the dinner so I know he wasn't staring at her and giving her mixed messages or anything. Well, he said when I went to the restroom he heard one of the females ask if he wanted to go to Hawaii. To humor her he said "Oh, yea. I love Hawaii" as she proceeded to tell him that she was serious and that a bunch of her friends were going to Hawaii and asked him again if he wanted to go. He replied with "I'm always up for Hawaii but you know, I should probably take my girlfriend" and she responded with a "Pfft" sound. He said when she said that he thought Aww man, I need to get out of here. At that point I came out of the bathroom to find him eager to go.

After he told me this I couldn't help but think what kind of woman does that? She'd have to be pretty stupid to not see me or see our romantic dinner conversation. I think she just plain didn't care! Maybe she's one of those that thinks she is better than anyone else, maybe its a game to her to see if she can steal a man, I dunno. What gives?

This stinks of 'player' behaviour.

You went to the bathroom, while you were away he chatted up the waitress who he'd been eyeing up through the evening.

He fed you a story to cover up his tracks.

The desire to rapidly leave was because she wasn't having any of it and might have said something when you returned and the 'see you in Hawaii" comment the waitress made was an attempt to embarrass him because he's chatting and eyeing up girls behind your back.

Brokensmile, I also wonder if the waitress deliberately said the, "see you in Hawaii" comment to help YOU out. As in, to let you in on the fact that he was flirting with her. I have done that before if I've been at a bar and a man I've seen the whole night with another woman, when she's in the restroom he comes up and talks to me. So I've said something like, "It was so nice meeting you" to them both as I walk away so she gets a head's up.

The key is knowing and trusting you guy. Some people are flirtatious by nature and there is no harm. So, if you trust your man 100%, then there isn't a worry

There is nothing to cover up! If he instigated the conversation (doubtful) and had I actually heard her say that remark of "see you in Hawaii" and questioned him then, yea I could see where he would have to cover something up. The point is I didn't ask him. He decided to tell me about this as I nonchalantly brought up how I'm oblivious to women flirting with my man in-front of me, much later in the evening.



I trust him.

There is nothing to cover up! If he instigated the conversation (doubtful) and had I actually heard her say that remark of "see you in Hawaii" and questioned him then, yea I could see where he would have to cover something up. The point is I didn't ask him. He decided to tell me about this as I nonchalantly brought up how I'm oblivious to women flirting with my man in-front of me, much later in the evening.



I trust him.

This stinks of 'player' behaviour.