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What's your take on Facebook relationship status and relationships?

I know of couples that were on the brink of breaking up because they didn't update their Facebook status

My boyfriend and I aren't even friends on Facebook and we each just use it to communicate with friends from the military or high school.

So what's the big deal with Facebook statuses? In this day and age, do you have to be a "cyber couple" as well as just a "couple"? Hmm...
 
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I look at fidelity in actions.

Exclusive necessitates that a person:

- Is not seeking to see (or communicate with) any prospective romantic partner, nor will see intimacy with or arousal from another person, regardless of romantic intent.

- Will not accept any such offers or opportunities, and will clearly dismiss them with the information they are not available.

Although a label used online is not necessary to acheive the above, if my partner were taking communication from men, I would say that she is someone I am unlikely to see as having a future with.

While I can see it as being silly to change such a label every week, I would say it should reflect a "committed" status at least as soon as real-world exclusivity. Personally, a general interest on-line (not dating specific) website, I'd probably prefer to leave that blank.
 
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cristie86 wrote :
What's your take on Facebook relationship status and relationships?

I know of couples that were on the brink of breaking up because they didn't update their Facebook status

My boyfriend and I aren't even friends on Facebook and we each just use it to communicate with friends from the military or high school.

So what's the big deal with Facebook statuses? In this day and age, do you have to be a "cyber couple" as well as just a "couple"? Hmm...
LOL breaking up over Facebook relationship status. Facebook is a way to keep in casual contact with friends out of state, and up to date on bands/sports teams. I don't take it seriously. I think people that get into arguements over FB with their partners have underlying issues with trust and the rue over FB is just a symptom of other problems.
 
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Can someone please explain why it seems to be vitally important to document one's personal affairs for the entire free world?
 
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Can someone please explain why it seems to be vitally important to document one's personal affairs for the entire free world?
That is why you can make your profile private so the whole world can't see it. I would be a little annoyed if I was in a relationship and my boyfriend said he would keep his facebook as a "single" status. Either have it as in a relationship or nothing at alll (you dont have to fill that part in) If you leave it as single it is just advertising that you are still on the market to countless people that sorta know you. I would take it as you don't really want to be serious if you are not willing to put it out there to your friends and family that I exist.
 
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Can someone please explain why it seems to be vitally important to document one's personal affairs for the entire free world?
Good question, I personally do not, but I think a lot of people do because the technology is readily available and it is trendy. Also, you *can* make your facebook or twitter or blog private. I know some folks do that and post personal stuff, because they've got a lot of personal friends and extended family on there and it's easier to tell them that way rather then making 20 phone calls.
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Absolutely agree:
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I think people that get into arguements over FB with their partners have underlying issues with trust and the rue over FB is just a symptom of other problems.
Yep, just another way to misinterpret things, read into things and assume things...
 
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I like that I have my status as "in a relationship" on Facebook, but I don't link it to my boyfriend's page. Before he met me, he didn't have a status at all. I asked him not long after we became exclusive if I could change it, and if he would do his as well, and we did, on Superbowl weekend. That's all.

My sister shows that she's married to her husband, and has his name on there, so for them it's not as big of a deal. But my boyfriend asked specifically not to put our names on each other's pages, and he doesn't like when I post status updates that have anything to do with our relationship, so I have respected that and left it at that. I have more important things to worry about anyway.
 
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MileHighArtist wrote :
Good question, I personally do not, but I think a lot of people do because the technology is readily available and it is trendy. Also, you *can* make your facebook or twitter or blog private. I know some folks do that and post personal stuff, because they've got a lot of personal friends and extended family on there and it's easier to tell them that way rather then making 20 phone calls.
So ... In today's hurry-up world it's an acceptable time-saving substitute for actually spending time in some fashion with important people in your life.

BTW, not pickin' on ya!
 
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lissa783 wrote :
That is why you can make your profile private so the whole world can't see it. I would be a little annoyed if I was in a relationship and my boyfriend said he would keep his facebook as a "single" status. Either have it as in a relationship or nothing at alll (you dont have to fill that part in) If you leave it as single it is just advertising that you are still on the market to countless people that sorta know you. I would take it as you don't really want to be serious if you are not willing to put it out there to your friends and family that I exist.
Would you be more annoyed about him not updating his status or not really being your boyfriend?

As for making stuff private, apparently it is very easy for the uninitiated to have no clue, like the ditz who published her phone number in another recent thread.
 
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