Not sure what to do next? Advice would be awesome.

Hi everyone,

So, I'm a recently new member at eharmony; I was browsing through the advice forum, and thought I'd fire this question out there for your thoughts.

I had a girl break up with me about 2 weeks ago. We hadn't been going out for that long (worked together for a month, followed by about 3 weeks of seeing each other), but it was pretty intense (i.e. physical intimacy, very frequent contact on a daily basis).

One night, she came over, and we had dinner, watched a movie, and then she stuck around for awhile. The next night, I hear nothing from her all day, which I thought was strange, and then, late at night, receive an e-mail that, in summary, said "Hey, its not working for me, I'm really sorry because you are such a nice guy. I was lonely when we met, but I had a great time. If you want to talk about it, I'll be away on vacation for a week and we can talk when I get back".

To say that this message surprised me is an understatement, both because of its suddenness and the fact that it was over e-mail; I was pretty hurt, confused and probably a little angry all at the same time. I don't feel like I got any closure. I have not talked to her since (have studiously avoided any method of contact). BUT... by nature of our work, we will run into each other again. Also, one of the other people who worked on this project with us for a month was astonished when we were no longer together, saying that she seemed pretty cool, that we obviously got along well together, and that she was very much actively pursuing me through the entire project. This particular conversation with our co-coworker happened a couple of days ago, which is why this is probably a fresher topic in my mind than it normally would be.

Anyway, that's a long story that leads up to this - should I get in touch with her? There's a part of me that doesn't want to have any contact, but there's another part of me (that's growing) that says that, even though the conversation will probably make me feel worse in the short term, might help in the long term. For the record, the latter opinion is getting little to no support from my friends, who feel like an e-mail is no way for a mid-30's person to break up with someone.

Thoughts? Suggestions? Thanks everyone, hope you are having a great weekend.