Why does his Ex want to "reconnect"?

I get the impression that it gives him a sense of vindication and perhaps brought some sort of closure. He replied that he appreciated her reaching out, but asked her to accept his decision to not carry on a dialogue past this email to respect boundaries for the sake of her husband and his fiancee (me)

I suspect that b/c the relationship didn't end well and she immediately jumped into another, she might be looking for some closure now. Likely the rose-colored glasses of the *new* relationship are off and she's reminiscing about the past... wondering what could have been.

As others said she be having marital problems now and misses the good times with him and either wants to cheat or go back to him. What was the real reason for their breakup?
He may not want to because he knows he still has strong feelings for her and doesnt even want to risk it with you.

I get the impression that it gives him a sense of vindication and perhaps brought some sort of closure. He replied that he appreciated her reaching out, but asked her to accept his decision to not carry on a dialogue past this email to respect boundaries for the sake of her husband and his fiancee (me) and to maintain the security in their respective relationships. I am glad that he is completely transparent with me and trust him fully. It's just a curious thing that she would be doing this now when he's newly engaged.

Without knowing their relationship was its impossible to say wy.

Say they were long time high school sweethearts, or were friends long before their relationship and she misses that friendship.

They shared many common friends that have torn up the group because of their split and her friends torment her on making ammends so the group can be back together and socialize together and the shared friends dont have to choose.


As others said she be having marital problems now and misses the good times with him and either wants t sheat or go back to him. What was the real reason for their breakup?

He may not want to because he knows he still has strong feelings for her and doesnt even want to risk it with you.

i am one that does believe former lovers can be friends.

They met online so have no history prior to dating. They were on and off for 2 years, and my understanding is it was a tumultuous relationship that she ultimately ended. He tried reaching out to her, but 3 months after they split, she was engaged to another man which was obviously damaging to him. The last communication they had was her now husband telling him to cease trying to communicate with her. We ran into her once while together, and he ran into another time (both times at the airport) and she always runs the other way. They share no mutual friends (his friends feel that she was not good for him or to him).

Basically, there is nothing that I know about their relationship that would lead me to believe these two people could be or even want to be friends. (I should note that we both have exes with whom we are still acquainted, but those friendships are known and well established.)

I don't know what is going on with her that would make her email him out of the blue. I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt and think that maybe she is remorseful for how she treated him. However, I do suspect that if she was content and happy in life, she would not feel the need to "reconnect" whatever that means. What I do know is that he is a FABULOUS guy and I can understand any regret that might linger from letting him go, and the desire to perhaps get him back.

Update: There have been no more emails since my fiance sent out his response. That's a good thing.

Thanks, everyone, for your input!