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If he were truly sorry for the behavior. After all, isn't that the essence of an apology... acknowledging bad behavior and not repeating it?
Good call. I know. :-( We had a brief text exchange last night (initiated by him) to catch up and he also mentioned talking this weekend to set up plans for the trip. I'll take it from there.

Wiseman - Thanks for the input. I think that makes a lot of sense. I think my fear is always that I overreact because I know I'm very sensitive and sometimes I have a tendency to think that I can mitigate other people's unhealthy habits with my own coping strategies. I know that's not helping anyone.

I think also I admit I have my own bad behaviors, which I try very much to improve/mitigate and I think my accepting of stuff like this has to do with the fact that I'm not perfect either.

I do want to give him the chance to see if he can mellow out a little bit but I agree with you, if it continues the nice moments don't make up for the blow up ones.

I also think that Ingy, perhaps you are right and there is no reason to have the conversation. It's come in drips and draps. He probably knows what he needs to do, so maybe there is no need to rehash it. He knows, per an email I sent a few days ago, that I wanted to have it, but the ball is in his court.

Thanks for all the input. I think I'm going to be reading other ones here, and giving this a break for awhile. I sincerely appreciated all the input and it gave me a ton to think about, but it's also a newish relationship so I think coming back here = dwelling too much and probably not helpful.

But again, thanks. :-)
 
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