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hopefuloptimistic2011 is offline hopefuloptimistic2011 Post #1  October 18,2011, 2:44pm
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I live in the northern U.S. On Match.com, there are hundreds of great profiles of Canadian women within a few hours drive. I don't want to rule them out simply because of nationality. However, there does seem to be complications.

What are the major issues in an international relationship between citizens of the U.S. & Canada?
 
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I don't know but I've been told
Canadian women are mighty cold.
 
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I have friends (one couple actually... I'm friends with both) who managed to build and maintain a US-Canadian LDR relationship for 2 years before getting married. She is from the US (a northern state as well, I forget which one), He is from Canada (Quebec to be exact) and they used to take turns driving to each other every weekend, something like a 5 hour drive each way or something. Now they live together after they went through the painful process of getting the guy a green card so he could move to her state and actually be able to work.

I would imagine that's the main issue to be faced here... the problem of whomever you meet not being able to obtain a job until months after marriage, making the "let's move in together" bit impractical until after marriage. This is, of course, other than all the inherent issues of any LDR.

With that said however, my friends did NOT meet on an online dating site. I would imagine, given the nature of the game when it comes to online dating, not very many people would truly be open to making a LDR work after the initial "excitement of a new person" phase wears off.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
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I don't know but I've been told
Canadian women are mighty cold.
TWEET! That's not nice....we are actually experts at creating heat....something that could come in handy on a February day on the Jersey shore, lol!

To the OP, I don't see a problem if the border is close. I know people who scoot over for a tank of gas and a bag of milk, so surely a date with a great match would be no problem. Why not take advantage of the longest undefended boarder in the world?
 
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The first question, I would ask about yourself is, who would have to relocate if this works out. Would you bring her to the US or would you move to be with her? That entails a lot of details, getting the green card if she wants to come here, finding a job wherever, etc. It's the perils of a long distance relationship magnified.

In the short term, if you're considering dating someone in Canada, don't forget you are required to have a passport to cross the border. I have always had one, so I was actually surprised to find out how many Americans don't have one. Beyond that I can't think of much, other than they use the metric system for measurements, and so your speed is measured in kilometers per hour and not miles, and they use centigrade instead of farenheit for temperature. Just saying, so that if you do communicate with someone from Canada, they might be confused, or vice versa. Not a huge deal though. It's a lot of little things, but not as huge as dating someone from a completely different culture. Good luck.
 
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In the short run, there is really no significant concern except that which applies to any distance relationship, and possibly understanding their funny coins.

For me, I would treat Canada as if it was part of the US as far as dating was concerned. (Meaning, we both own at least one house and there are no joint legal documents.)

Everything "works" in Canada - money, credit cards, mobile phone ... The border is fine as long as I'm not carrying an arsenal.

Once it came to a cohabiting choice, you have the obvious problem of who moves, and what that entails. (Especially if you also have to deal with securing employment and benefits in a nation you are effectively a tourist in.)
 
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hopefuloptimistic2011 wrote :
What are the major issues in an international relationship between citizens of the U.S. & Canada?
Eh? Eh.

There are the usual immigration "issues" for marriage. If the couple engages, and the Canadian (foreign-national) future-spouse breathes a word of the engagement to a U.S. border agent, the Canadian (foreign-national) will be denied entry into the U.S. (This includes the wearing of an engagement ring.)

Just tell 'em you're going "oot and aboot."
 
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Co6aka wrote :
Eh? Eh.

There are the usual immigration "issues" for marriage. If the couple engages, and the Canadian (foreign-national) future-spouse breathes a word of the engagement to a U.S. border agent, the Canadian (foreign-national) will be denied entry into the U.S. (This includes the wearing of an engagement ring.)

Just tell 'em you're going "oot and aboot."
That almost happened to me! I wasn't denied entry, but they checked me out pretty thoroughly.

If you happen to get engaged and the Canadian is going to the States, make sure you have all the paperwork for the K-1 visa in hand before you attempt to cross the border. The process doesn't have to be complete - I've traveled to the States numerous times since notyet and I got engaged - but things should definitely be underway, as I found out.
 
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LDJ wrote :
Why not take advantage of the longest undefended boarder in the world?
um... have you crossed the border lately?

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... The border is fine as long as I'm not carrying an arsenal...
so that's why they dismantled my vehicle last trip!

Co6aka wrote :
Eh? Eh.
i don't get it...

?:-/

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- I've traveled to the States numerous times since notyet and I got engaged -
*waves

sos, when ya comin' home, eh?

>);-)

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...make sure you have all the paperwork for the K-1 visa in hand before you attempt to cross the border...
NOooooo!

First of all, the K-1 is a single-entry visa; once you enter on it, it's no longer valid. (Visas are for ENTRY to the USA.)

When the foreign national is asked the purpose of their visit, if their reply is "to visit my fiancé(e)" or if the inspecting agent believes that's their purpose, then the foreign national is supposed to be denied entry. I'm not certain if that applies to pre-visa fiancé(e)s, but I'm almost certain it applies to pending-visa fiancé(e)s... unless something was recently changed, which I doubt.

Unless you enjoy inviting trouble, don't.

Here's a good site with just about all the info you'd ever need: www.visajourney.com

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so that's why they dismantled my vehicle last trip!
Jes lookin' for that contraband maple syrup. And maybe a few Newfie stowaways.

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i don't get it...
You need to get oot and aboot more!

Eh?
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