When to Bring up the Religion Dealbreaker


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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #11  October 14,2011, 3:57pm
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Bring up religion fairly quickly in general questions - it's important to know if you're on the same page with that or not.
 
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I agree with the above advice -- reference your religion, including your specific denomination, in your profile and specify that you are looking for a woman that shares your faith.

At the risk of stating the obvious, you may have more luck meeting a woman of your specific denomination by getting involved in a church of that denomination. If there are several such churches in the nearby area, try them all to see whether any of them have programs aimed at singles. Good luck!
 
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...you will probably want to go get a dog or cat to have some companionship as you wait for a proverbial miracle to happen ...
or not...

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savman wrote :
I personally feel that religion deal breakers are best brought up before meeting.
as another conservative christian, i agree. and it should go in your profile.
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Bakerella_26 wrote :
I too am a Christian, and after years of dating in and outside my faith, I've come to a simple conclusion: dating outside my faith just doesn't work.

A lot of people will say "oh, you're just not open to other religions" and "you're just not willing to see new things, or new views." Well, you're right, I'm not. I believe what I believe in, and when I date someone that does not believe what I believe in, things get tense, views differ, and it actually caused a lot or arguing. People have all different kinds of dealbreakers, and this is just one of mine. Shouldn't be a problem.

In my profile, I specify that I'm looking for a Christian man, and in my search, I specify certain denominations that I would prefer. It makes it easier that way.

That's just my take.
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You've had some good advice here already.

My practice is to put on the table clear screens prior to meeting.

A clear screen is one which can be stated with sufficient precision that it does not create any ambiguity.

Screens which can not be resolved in writing prior to meeting, are where I favor at least one meeting to discuss the matter in person.

In either case, it is not fair to your partners - and it's a waste of your time and money - to delay discussion of your critical screens.
 
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OP, this should be a fairly easy thing to bring up in online dating. Many people are very open to talking about potential 'deal-breakers' in relationships with otherwise complete strangers.

If this is someone you met outside of a dating website and you're just going on a casual date you may just want to mention your religion in conversation and possibly ask your date about theirs as well in order to find out about this. In my experiences in my age range most people are not very receptive to hearing about 'deal-breakers', whether you want kids or not, and otherwise "serious relationship" conversations when they're still trying to figure out if they like the smell of your cologne.

YMMV,
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