Ten Ways to Impress a Guy

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menotyou is offline menotyou Post #1  September 10,2011, 5:12am
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 Who came up with this one - some cheap, hungry guy? It's one thing after you've established exclusivity, but while he's trying to seal the deal, the man ALWAYS pays. Would a man take a business prospect out for the evening and expect the client to pay for dinner? No, of course not! Why? Because he CARES about sealing that deal and making a good impression. Why should that be any different in dating? Any man who expected me to pay on a date is a man who isn't going to pull his weight in a relationship down the line. Some of these red flags are easy to spot early. 
 
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Advice given is a general opinion of what experts think gives good results for the majority. Experts are not always right. You may have something that works better for you in your situation.
 
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Yep. Good grief. Any gold-digger, welfare attitude or behavior is an instant deal-breaker.

Most of this list isn't even about "impressing" me - it's minimum standards I expect any healthy adult to meet, just to get their foot in the door.

- She Can Disagree Gracefully
- She Has Hobbies and is Knowledgable About Them
- She's Smart
- She Can Take a Joke and Dish It Right Back
- She Knows How to Look Casual and Beautiful
- She is Living the Life She Wants to Live
- She Knows the Power of a Touch
- She Kisses like She Means it
- She has an High Emotional IQ
- She Pays for Dinner
 
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It's even more impressive to offer to thumb wrestle him over the check.
 
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HelenDanger wrote :
It's even more impressive to offer to thumb wrestle him over the check.
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Ooh I like it. Dig the pentagram! The world's first satanic hand game. I want to learn to play so I can open up a hellgate next time I'm at Arby's.
 
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menotyou's comment was obviously ridiculous, but it has been well chastized.However, I certainly take issue with the picture in #10.If you (male or female) pay with a 21 cent tip, you won't impress anyone!Hopefully, the author intended to imply the tip was left on the table or something.One person paying and the other tipping is a nice option sometimes.Just know that if you tip < 2% for a sit down meal, you will look bad.
 
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menotyou wrote :
 Who came up with this one - some cheap, hungry guy? It's one thing after you've established exclusivity, but while he's trying to seal the deal, the man ALWAYS pays. Would a man take a business prospect out for the evening and expect the client to pay for dinner? No, of course not! Why? Because he CARES about sealing that deal and making a good impression. Why should that be any different in dating? Any man who expected me to pay on a date is a man who isn't going to pull his weight in a relationship down the line. Some of these red flags are easy to spot early. 
I will say this in the most tactful way I can...

So what is the hypothetical women doing to seal the deal? How does the man know a woman is going to pull her weight in the relationship down the line? Would a woman take a business prospect out for the evening and expect the client to pay for dinner? No! of course not! But dating is not the same as a business-client meeting- the early dating phase is about getting to know each other on equal standing. I'm sorry but the attitude that the guy must *always* pay because he's a male is a total turnoff and a red flag these days, both participants should always offer to contribute.

In my opinion whoever is the 'host' aka. whoever suggested the date or at least the specific activity during the date should pay, and while this happens to still usually be the male- it's very attractive if the non-host offers to contribute. It says, "I like you and I'm enjoying myself enough to want to pay as well". If you really want to be nice you can insist on paying for the other's meal or for the tip...But this idea that men should be grateful just for the opportunity to spend time with a woman that they should pay for everything until it's exclusive is not attractive at all and is very degrading view of males as it paints us as a bunch of desperate buffoons that put women on pedestals and it's also degrading to females as it paints the character of a spoiled princess.

This is not about the guy being poor/cheap/starving, it's about presenting one's self as a woman of good character who is capable of caring as much for a man as he cares for you.
 
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What a load of BS that last one is! Please, a woman paying for a man tells the guy ONE thing and ONE thing ONLY...Here is a desperate, insecure woman with low self-esteem that I can take advantage of. Period. What a joke! Lol
 
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menotyou wrote :
Who came up with this one - some cheap, hungry guy? It's one thing after you've established exclusivity, but while he's trying to seal the deal, the man ALWAYS pays. Would a man take a business prospect out for the evening and expect the client to pay for dinner? No, of course not! Why? Because he CARES about sealing that deal and making a good impression. Why should that be any different in dating? Any man who expected me to pay on a date is a man who isn't going to pull his weight in a relationship down the line. Some of these red flags are easy to spot early.
Could not have said it any better myself! Thank god there are at least a few other smart women in this world!
 
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