5 Relationship Red Flags

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Cherami is offline Cherami Post #101  March 26,2010, 11:47am
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There is another red flag that I tell all my guy friends to look out after. That is, if the woman you are dating doesn't have a lot of women friends, and doesn't get along well with other women, run like heck.  The truth is that normal woman really enjoy the company of other women.  We enjoy their point of view and enjoy discussing everything from the state of the union to how to deal with children and grandchildren.  This has been the case since the stone age.  If a woman doesn't mix well with other women she, quite likely, will get along and mix well with your men friends and other women's men friends.  This type of woman usually looks at other women as threats, looking at them as competition, even if it's the other woman's husband who is the subject of her attention.  She doesn't play fair and feels that any many is fair game....she is unlikely to be faithful, she will merely wait for someone better looking and/or more wealthy to come along..........so beware!
 
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XWoman wrote :
I am trully baffled and want to know why do guys do this?
I don't know, either. Why don't you ask them?
 
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bobbo56 is offline bobbo56 Post #103  March 26,2010, 8:12pm
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Another red flag for you women is if you go into a relationship with a nest egg of your own, don't be too generous with it. A guy I had a relationship with was separated legally (not divorced, said he didn't want to pay for it) & I was divorced. I had some money from the sale of my house, and moved in with him. I later found out that he owed the world money, & was going to lose his house if he didn't pay up. No wonder he sugar coated everything in the beginning! I did help him some, but invested the bulk of my money in MY name. He treated me like crap after that. Beware of guys that say they are financially okay, but are OVER  extremely happy that you are too! He also tried to tell me if I left, I would get nothing, and would be living in a ditch. Boy, was he wrong!! Save ALL your proof of payment, girls!! It pays off in the end.
 
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I liked the last one, and then the gut feeling part. That one is tough to distinguish, but I think it is important. If you find that the chemistry isn't all there and your asking yourself "hmmmm?" a few times, then you are definitely on a slippery slope! I also agree, you can't change somebody down the road, you both have to be in the right place, right now, when you meet. It's hard to consider this when there is alot of good things though, definitely important...
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I'm not a fan of the people saying to avoid those with very little if any social life/friends.

I have dealt with social anxiety since grade school (had a rough childhood, which affected myself for many years). I have spent the last 3 years of my life working on my anxiety naturally (no prozac here), and I'm finally starting to live a life, but I'm still in the process of making friends and actually having a social life. Does that mean woman should not bother with me? That's a pretty harsh thing to say to a person who is working hard to improve themselves. I'm no Brad Pitt, but as in the movie "Meet Joe Black," I'm just starting to experience life.
 
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Uncle Apple is offline Uncle Apple Post #106  April 15,2010, 9:35pm
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I think that, in some ways, I'm just on the shelf. And that in some ways, I was, maybe more, social in my teen years.  But that's neither here nor there, as the saying goes. regardless of what an eharmoney advice article says, it's in accurate, if it only talks about either us men, or about women. Both are the same in some ways, especially when it comes to going poof.
 
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I agree with going with your instinct. You "gut" feeling is ALWAYS right. I always go with my intuition...if it doesnt feel right with someone, I dont continue. Life is too short to be trying to work on a relationship with the wrong person. And I think if we are honest with ourselves, we just "know" when the right one comes along. If we are true to ourselves, we will trust, honor and act on how we feel about someone, and our intuition will always guide us in the right direction.
 
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SnickerdoodleYum is offline SnickerdoodleYum Post #108  November 22,2010, 9:41pm
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Every single one of those describes my ex husband and I. Problem was, they didn't show up until after we were married for about two years. Go figure. He changed a lot for various reasons.
 
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