Love and the Playful Partner

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cowgirl786 is offline cowgirl786 Post #1  January 27,2011, 11:59am
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I think that humor is so very important in relationships. I'm such a goofy person I can't imagine being with someone who isn't goofy...or who would think of me as weird for being goofy.My sister and her boyfriend are both VERY serious people. They don't laugh at anything. ever. And if I try they just look at me and roll their eyes. But they are happy together. That's okay... If they want to have a marriage and look like the picture of the 2 old Amish people with the pitchfork that's fine...I went out on a date with a guy (my first eHarmony date ever) and I was my usual goofy self and the guy was visibly embarrassed. I mean it's not like I started doing the hokey pokey on the table. I just made a few jokes quietly across the table, you know, just making conversation...and they weren't inappropriate or anything, but he kept looking around to make sure no one had heard...and then I never heard from him again...so I was like ooookaaaay...no humor for suitor numero uno...NEEEEXT!!! Now I seem to have met a really nice guy. We've been out twice and we're going out again this weekend...and we'll just have to see where it goes... and the best part: he seems just as goofy as me!!!
 
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I think its healthy to laugh at oneself and laugh with each other. I went grocery shopping with a date and he kept making the carts wheels make that loud rumbling squeak. I found it hilarious, since I've been known to do consecutive leaps down store aisles.

Congrats to you keep enjoying life and keeping things fun. I think humor keeps people young and happy.
 
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annother is offline annother Post #3  January 28,2011, 7:46am
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Humour is usually a good thing, and playfulness is wonderful in an intimate relationship. It seems, though, that it takes a while for people to appreciate one another's sense of humour.

I would say that anything that was loud or attention-getting is probably inappropriate for a first date. Most people need time to figure out how to comfortably enjoy the company of someone they have just met.

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This is from my EH profile (and no, I am not seeking a review, just sharing):

What I am looking for in a partner (or whatever that wording is!)

Someone who still plays - not golf or tennis, but blowing bubbles in the park and dancing in the backyard and doing the "Wizard of Oz" skip down the sidewalk. Someone who can put on a tux and escort me to the theatre, then not look askance when I want stop at the playground and play on the swings on the way home. Life is too short to spend it as an adult.
 
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Bijou13 wrote :
I think its healthy to laugh at oneself and laugh with each other. I went grocery shopping with a date and he kept making the carts wheels make that loud rumbling squeak. I found it hilarious, since I've been known to do consecutive leaps down store aisles.

Congrats to you keep enjoying life and keeping things fun. I think humor keeps people young and happy.
Yeah,i agree.Congrats!
 
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j0hn8andy is offline j0hn8andy Post #6  January 28,2011, 5:36pm
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My late husband could make me laugh even in the midst of an argument.

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cowgirl786 wrote :
I think that humor is so very important in relationships. I'm such a goofy person I can't imagine being with someone who isn't goofy...or who would think of me as weird for being goofy.My sister and her boyfriend are both VERY serious people. They don't laugh at anything. ever. And if I try they just look at me and roll their eyes. But they are happy together. That's okay... If they want to have a marriage and look like the picture of the 2 old Amish people with the pitchfork that's fine...I went out on a date with a guy (my first eHarmony date ever) and I was my usual goofy self and the guy was visibly embarrassed. I mean it's not like I started doing the hokey pokey on the table. I just made a few jokes quietly across the table, you know, just making conversation...and they weren't inappropriate or anything, but he kept looking around to make sure no one had heard...and then I never heard from him again...so I was like ooookaaaay...no humor for suitor numero uno...NEEEEXT!!! Now I seem to have met a really nice guy. We've been out twice and we're going out again this weekend...and we'll just have to see where it goes... and the best part: he seems just as goofy as me!!!
I like you and have never met you! I love how things are going for you now.
 
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Dropdeadredtx wrote :
Someone who still plays - not golf or tennis, but blowing bubbles in the park and dancing in the backyard and doing the "Wizard of Oz" skip down the sidewalk. Someone who can put on a tux and escort me to the theatre, then not look askance when I want stop at the playground and play on the swings on the way home. Life is too short to spend it as an adult.
The highlighted part reminds me of a really great quote from (I think) Oscar Wilde: "Life is too important to be taken seriously."

Wise words.
 
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Dropdeadredtx wrote :
This is from my EH profile (and no, I am not seeking a review, just sharing):

What I am looking for in a partner (or whatever that wording is!)

Someone who still plays - not golf or tennis, but blowing bubbles in the park and dancing in the backyard and doing the "Wizard of Oz" skip down the sidewalk. Someone who can put on a tux and escort me to the theatre, then not look askance when I want stop at the playground and play on the swings on the way home. Life is too short to spend it as an adult.
And this will help you find a man who feels the same as you! Those who don't like it can walk on by
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Wow Melman...no adults skip down the sidewalk where you live? That seems rather sad to me. I skipped on my way to the grocery store last week as a matter of fact. I don't think we all have to interpret "playful" in the same way but I can't imagine a great relationship without the special bond that comes from being playful together.
 
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