brandon5359 is offline brandon5359 Post #1  November 4,2010, 6:25pm
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My ex and I met on a dating website. Everything was going great, and after 2.5 months, we decided to make the relationship official. The one thing I sensed while we were dating is that the first time we argued it would be the end. Our first argument was over the dating website because she was still on it. She eventually took it down. The second one was about her breaking plans to come see me. It would have been the first time she was at my place and we live an hour from eachother. Her and I are both very busy. We both work and attend school full time which makes us available to eachother only on the weekends. We hardly spoke after the 2nd argument and all of a sudden she said she still cares about me but couldn't do the relationship because of schedules and distance. I know she has been really stressed out recently with both things and I wonder if she made an impulsive decision to end things. She really hates conflict and seems the type to run in any situation where there could be conflict. We havent had any contact in 4 days. Could this be her way of telling me she just needs some space? Does this sound like something that could work if I give her space? We both really care about eachother and would hate to see things end this way.
 
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brandon5359 wrote :
...she said she still cares about me but couldn't do the relationship ...
This is it in a nutshell. She has broken up with you. She didn't do this impulsively, she's been thinking about it since your first argument. She doesn't "need space." She's got all the space she wants because she's no longer in your relationship. Whenever someone says they "need space," that's just a way of trying to soften the blow on the way to a break up. She's already broken up with you. You know this as you've already referred to her as your "ex." Time to start moving on. Sorry.
 
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M_M is offline M_M Post #3  November 4,2010, 10:05pm
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Its over move on.
 
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The relationship is short, too much arguing, incompatibility, conflicts in schedules etc.

She seems to know this...you are incompatible with to many conflicts.
She wants it over because of this, and that's a wise decision.
You need to let her go and find someone more compatible.

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My ex and I met on a dating website. and after 2.5 months,

Our first argument was over the dating website because she was still on it.

The second one was about her breaking plans to come see me.

We hardly spoke after the 2nd argument she said she still cares about me but couldn't do the relationship because of schedules and distance

She really hates conflict and seems the type to run in any situation where there could be conflict

 
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Let her go.

You are holding onto something that isn't working. She broke it off. Take some time to heal.

Good luck to you on your search!
 
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Did you have an official break up conversation, or were things said in the heat of the moment? It doesn't sound like there's been closure here. I've reread your post several times.There was an argument. You need to pick up the phone and clarify things before you move on. It's not aout ego it's about finality.
 
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