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dietpepsi is offline dietpepsi Post #1  November 1,2010, 3:43pm
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If a guy says today that he's "not ready to get married", he means not within ~2 years right? Trying to read between the lines to see if a guy (that I don't know well) has the same timing.
 
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If a guy says today that he's "not ready to get married", he means not within ~2 years right? Trying to read between the lines to see if a guy (that I don't know well) has the same timing.
The same timing as you??
I wouldn't assume that at all.
 
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Most young men and a bunch of other men are "not ready to get married!"

Mainly they are just not ready to get married to the person that they are saying it to. I don't believe that it works they way you described. Meaning, they don't wake up one day and say "OK, now's the time to think about getting married. Maybe I'm wrong but I don't think that happens.

Rather, they meet someone - the relationship progresses - they fall in love (or lust) and begin to think that they might have met their soul mate. Or the girl says we need to get married or break-up - take your pick!
 
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Most young men and a bunch of other men are "not ready to get married!"

Mainly they are just not ready to get married to the person that they are saying it to. I don't believe that it works they way you described. Meaning, they don't wake up one day and say "OK, now's the time to think about getting married. Maybe I'm wrong but I don't think that happens.

Rather, they meet someone - the relationship progresses - they fall in love (or lust) and begin to think that they might have met their soul mate. Or the girl says we need to get married or break-up - take your pick!

^^^ Agreed!
 
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If a guy says today that he's "not ready to get married", he means not within ~2 years right? Trying to read between the lines to see if a guy (that I don't know well) has the same timing.

I would not expect it to be measured in time.

It's really more about money - or, more precisely, the command over the resources necessary to support the life he associates with marriage.

In my peers, "ready" for marriage means completed education, and established in career.

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How old is this person?
 
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Mainly they are just not ready to get married to the person that they are saying it to.
True dat.
 
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dietpepsi wrote :
If a guy says today that he's "not ready to get married", he means not within ~2 years right? Trying to read between the lines to see if a guy (that I don't know well) has the same timing.
Don't count on it!

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Mainly they are just not ready to get married to the person that they are saying it to.
It would be a waste of your time on wishful hoping to believe anything else.

You should take the man at his word.

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True dat.
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One guy prospect told me several times that he's not ready to get married (I did not prompt the question at all), so I didn't date him.

Another guy prospect told me that he had a couple of ex-girlfriends who wanted to get married and he didn't marry them. So I didn't date him either.

These are just single guys I know. I'm not talking about "us". I just figured that if a guy is ready, he would be very direct and say it. "Yeah, I am now ready to settle down with the right person. I'd like to get married in a few years and have a family."

It's like buying a house. If he wants to buy a house, he'll say he's looking.
 
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Agree with post below.
It means :
1) I do not want to marry you ( just hang out / play house while I retain my single status)

2) I never want to marry (again) want roommates with benefits.

3) If I tell you the truth 1 or 2 you will not hang out / play house with me, so will string you along with the "not ready just now" line.

4) When you pull away he realizes you aren't going to stick around while he shops for a wife, after all he is single
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Most young men and a bunch of other men are "not ready to get married!"

Mainly they are just not ready to get married to the person that they are saying it to. Or the girl says we need to get married or break-up - take your pick!
 
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