I need brutal honesty

My boyfriend and I have known each other for since middle school and we both had crushes on each other throughout high school but due to other relationships/geography and being to chicken to tell each other we didn't start dating until June 2009 when he came home on vacation and we decided to date and we also said we loved each other and that we wanted to get married and a couple weeks later I went to visit him where he lives and I got pregnant and I didnt find out until he had gone on a really really long business trip and I freaked out and told his mom because I didnt know what to do and she was upset because my boyfriend was going to play it cool and my just telling her blew that all to hades and that caused issues because his boss found out before he did and his coworkers foundout too and I guess they were gossiping about him and at first I honestlywanted to have a friend relationship with his parents and then after talking to my boyfriend I found out they didn't like me and that hurt my feelings because I hadn't known his mom didnt like me and we had interacted with each other so I expressed my feelings via a couple social networking sites and I had started a new job at a place where his mom had worked for many years and evidently someone from there forwarded my postings to her and that made her mad and her husband mad and then they told my boyfriend and that made him mad and because he was disctracted about the drama with his parents and me and my being pregnant my boyfriend was distracted and didnt get the promotion he wanted and prior to the business trip we had been planning on getting married but after the drama with his parents and his boss and i wasnt out of debt and he had wanted me to be and he didnt make the promotion he wanted so he isnt getting themoney he wanted so hes been working really really hard the past few months and ive tried to find out exactly where i stand because we were planning on getting married now we arent and when i ask him about it he doesnt answer and ive told him i want an answer before he goes on his upcoming business trip because he is in another state and once he leaves i cant reach him period (government job) and i need to know where i stand, im going crazy and i was reading the dating advice about the types of women men avoid and the 5 things not to do and i was like oh thats me but i need to know where i stand and im almost to the point where im thinking of just saying its not up to you im done because i cant handle being in a relationship where i dont know where i stand and i guess hes talked to his mom and expressed his feelings of grr because i dont trust him and i had total unwavering trust in him and i cant do thee same because i dont know where i stand and he changed his mind about wanting to get married so i wonder if im psychologically incapapble of trusting him because i have no reason to think he wont change his mind altogether and i need brutally honest advice because i dont know what to do.