Homewardbound is offline Homewardbound Post #11  October 29,2010, 5:51am
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It sounds to me like he's not worth the trouble, I will say putting things up on Facebook/myspace.....is never really a good idea, just because of the fact that everyone can see it. If this is how he's going to treat you being married to him would be absolute hell. Moms are never going to think any girl is good enough for their son and no dad is going to think any boy is good enough for their daughter. It sounds to me like he's looking for someone to blame all his problems on and you were the best thing at the time....don't take it you are a human being too you deserve so much better then being treated like this. Be sure to remind him and his parents both that it take two people to make a child. This is what pisses me off the most about people, he could stick around to have the fun but he doesn't want to do anything with you now that you are with his child.
 
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OMG. That was painful to read so I skipped most of it. If any lesson can be learned it is do not post any thing personal on the internet. You sound very immature.
 
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VolGal is offline VolGal Post #13  October 29,2010, 3:41pm
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I agree with churumbeque - posting personal and negative things on Facebook can get you in trouble. I stomped out of a church meeting 2 years ago, angry that the budget hole was being plugged by gutting the entire children's budget - youth program, youth ministry, youth Christian education.

I promptly went home and told everyone on Facebook what a so - and - so the person who suggested this odd plan was.

Bad idea.

OP - bad idea to post personal stuff on the Internet. It can get you in trouble, just like it did me.
 
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Honestly, both you (OP) and your boyfriend have behaved badly. It will take a lot of forgiveness and sharing of hopes and fears for this situation to be rectified.

In the meantime, whether or not you try to work this out, you must make plans for your child. From now on you cease to put yourself first. I would assume that the boyfriend will not resume the romance, and go from there.
 
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insertscreenname wrote :
Please use paragraphs when making a very long post. It's much easier to read.
it's not brutal honesty, but it's honest - and i second it. you obviously know where the period is on the keyboard because you end your insanely and purposefully long panic attack run-on with one each time.

the reason why i bring this up is...if you speak how you post, i'd be running away from you, too - it's overwhelming.

i'm sorry about the situation you're in, but i do agree with other posters - you have a few months to work on becoming the mature, calm, and responsible mother that your child will require. you can't control your baby's daddy, or his parents, or friends, or coworkers, or anything else. you *can* be the best person you can imagine.

create your own reality, and leave a nice comfortable space in your mind and heart open for a like-minded guy.

good luck.

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Honestly, both you (OP) and your boyfriend have behaved badly. It will take a lot of forgiveness and sharing of hopes and fears for this situation to be rectified.

In the meantime, whether or not you try to work this out, you must make plans for your child. From now on you cease to put yourself first. I would assume that the boyfriend will not resume the romance, and go from there.
 
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I think the OP is gone. I guess, her original request to be "brutally honest" did not extend to commentary on her writing skills (or lack thereof).

In my opinion, when posters ask for "brutal honesty," they are looking for the community to be brutally honest about the rat that they picked for a partner. As in this case, when they suffer from the "blow back," it's time to re-evaluate their need for advice.

I'm not sure that a poster showing this much immaturity can be helped in a forum such as this. So much is unknown or left off in her story. I hope that the advice to seek legal help that was extended by some of the posters hit home.
 
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Periods go a long way. Both in your story and otherwise. You sound rather youthful and need to make some mature decisions fast.

Good luck
 
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livinagin is offline livinagin Post #18  November 3,2010, 2:38pm
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I'm not sure she wanted help so much as to vent . . . everywhere right here and right now. My guess is that she has too much growing up to do to be a "good" mom. Gosh, but this type of thing happens every day.

To the rest of the community, thanks for taking a stab at it.
 
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