NoCommonWench is offline NoCommonWench Post #31  November 2,2010, 6:42pm
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omg. do not react to this guy! if he gets any reaction then the next time he talks about cheating just say "WHAT??" and then remember something you have to do and leave. Sweetly, happily nicely non-snarkily. Then i wouldnt talk to him for a couple of days at least. men understand distance. words or trying to "correct" them are usually wasted on them if not detrimental. i guess ultimately it depends on how much you like the guy
I agree with Nanette's advice. You've already tried talking to him and it didn't work. If you get all emotional, you are giving him what he wants--a reaction. It is probably time to start detaching from this clown.
 
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livinagin is offline livinagin Post #32  November 2,2010, 7:00pm
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Detaching . . . that is a nice way of putting it. But it is true, nevertheless. It is unfortunate that this happens, you are invested emotionally when someone starts dumping on you. But it does happen. And when it happens, sometimes you just don't have in your "vocabulary" to deal with properly.

But common sense should tell you that if this person loved you he would not hurt you intentionally. And that is exactly what is happening. He is using your emotional attachment . . .

Time for an exit strategy.
 
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many a truth said in jest...
 
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TinkerBelle007 is offline TinkerBelle007 Post #34  November 3,2010, 6:20pm
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Dump him. "He's just not that into you." Perhaps he was at one time, but not right now. He needs to know that you need to be treated better and his behavior is not acceptable. He is not making you happy and fulfilling your needs in a lover and friend. Be specific about what he is doing that dissatisfies you. If you 2 are meant to be he will straighten up and win you back, just like Frankie and GiGi on Jerseylicious. Respect yourself.
 
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YosemiteSam is offline YosemiteSam Post #35  November 4,2010, 8:28am
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InnerBeauty wrote :
I am a former health worker, so before my serious relationship turned intimate, I make sure we had the "why I insist there will be no cheating" talk and I asked my partner to do a health screening for STD's. Sexually transmitted disease is epidemic and can lead to lifelong health complications and he was not only willing to have it done, he thanked me for thinking of it as he was sure his last girlfriend had cheated on him.
This is OT but my view is if you have to ask someone to go get tested then you either don't know them well enough to have sex or you simply don't trust them.
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