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I never ever speak those three words until I'm sure I mean it. And even when I'm sure I mean it, I hold them back to make sure it wasn't a fleeting moment. Then and only then do I speak those words. They do change everything.

I once dated someone where I didn't say those words until we had been together for a year. I'm not one to celebrate anniversaries or holidays. I don't need an excuse to do something special for the person I'm with. So on our one year anniversary we just watched a movie at her place. After the movie we had a very passionate love making session. After the love making session we were just laying in bed, holding each other, giving light kisses. At that point it really sunk in, I loved this woman. I very meekly say those three words to her.

She said them back to me. She told me she had been waiting for months for me to tell her that. She didn't want to be the one to say them first.

Things went well for us for the next year and a half after that. Following that time things didn't go so great, but that's another story for another time.

So really, if you're going to use those words, make sure you mean them. They have a lot of meaning to some people.
- November 10th, 2009, 07:09 pm
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I am having the same problem.I have been in a relationship for just over a yr,I told my boyfriend 5 month's into the relationship that I was falling in love with him his response was thank you.
When I saw him again which was a few day's later he said to me I have very strong feelings for you but I have a problem with the L word right now.I thought a yr of dating he would say it but nothing.I am very involved with his family and I have been invited on a family trip in the summer so I know he really cares and it is not just a booty call.
He was in a 20 yr marriage which was very hard on him when it ended about 6 yrs ago.He is from a very old fashioned family and his mother introduces me as his friend and she also does this to his daugher's boyfriend only they live together but she introduces them as good friend.I used to get so frustrated and felt like walking away many time but I do love him it is very difficult for me to tell him my feelings because I don't want to pressure him.Is a year of waiting for those words to long? should I continue to be patient and wait.The 1 positive thing would to know that he was very sincere if and when I do hear those three special words.
- November 13th, 2009, 12:58 pm
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