confused1920 is offline confused1920 Post #1  August 10,2010, 10:37am
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Ok so everything is going good and probably don't even need to ask but thought I would see what people thought.

My girlfriend (who I have told I love you as some might know) says that I am spoiling her. I don't know if this is good or bad (I think good)? What is your take on this? It's not that I buy her a lot of things or anything like that. Some friends tell me it is that I am taking care of her needs. Just not sure what it means.

So let's here what you girls or guys think
 
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More context please!

It could be way of saying "thank you" for a gift or whatnot ... could also be a nice way of saying "you're buying too many things for me" ... could be a shy way of saying "you make me feel special to you" ... could be lots of things!

Pretty much good things though! lol
 
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Sassafras54 wrote :
More context please!

It could be way of saying "thank you" for a gift or whatnot ... could also be a nice way of saying "you're buying too many things for me" ... could be a shy way of saying "you make me feel special to you" ... could be lots of things!

Pretty much good things though! lol
I have bought her flowers twice other than that there is nothing other than dinner when we go out. She says it a lot and I leave little notes on her car the morning after if we stayed together for the night. Like a said not really buying anything. Was just curious cause I have told her I love her and if you saw my last post might explain a bit more
 
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You have to elaborate and tell us exactly why she thinks she is being spoiled. What actions of yours cause her to think this way. Give us an example.
 
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She just feels embarrassed that you are being so good to her so soon in a relationship and doesn't really know what to say. People are not real good at impromptu replies in response to generosity. Don't over read it or she will think you are being insecure. It would be really ironic to red-flag yourself by over-reacting to her response to your kindness.

You're fine - don't worry. Just spend more time bonding and it all works out in time...

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Usually that means you are doing little things that make them feel special. For me it is the little things that are simple but most guys overlook. Every now and then Troy texts me a rose. I can't wipe that stupid grin off my face for hours. I am very spoiled but not in a way you read on these boards.

Yeah thats it, it is deviating from the norm. I would almost bet it is not the flowers but the notes and such. See most guys know to open the door, pay for the meal, call at set times, send flowers and stuff like that. Then there are these guys that actually think. Like the rose, Troy didn't know what half my smileys meant so he looked them up. While he was looking at the different meanings he saw that rose. It is a two for, see I love roses because of my relationship with my grandma and he communicated it in a way that is new for him because I change a lot of how he looks at things (as he does for me). I tell him he spoils me a lot. He tells me I spoil him a lot as well.
 
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confused1920 wrote :
Ok so everything is going good and probably don't even need to ask but thought I would see what people thought.

My girlfriend (who I have told I love you as some might know) says that I am spoiling her. I don't know if this is good or bad (I think good)? What is your take on this? It's not that I buy her a lot of things or anything like that. Some friends tell me it is that I am taking care of her needs. Just not sure what it means.

So let's here what you girls or guys think
Don't be confused......it's a good thing.
 
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I disagree.

She's telling you, "you like me more than I like you".

The end is nigh ...I'm predicting a "you are a great friend" conversation in your near future.
 
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If she said it with a smile you've got nothing to worry about.
 
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BikerBeagle wrote :
I disagree.

She's telling you, "you like me more than I like you".

The end is nigh ...I'm predicting a "you are a great friend" conversation in your near future.
Sarcastic or serious?
 
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