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stevex is offline stevex Post #11  July 30,2010, 9:04am
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You can't commit unless you have had some serious dating with the guy and know that is the right thing to do. I think he would be dumb to move just for you. If he found a good job than it would be okay because he could date you if you two were interested and if things didn't work out he would still be in the city with a good job and could find other people to date.

I don't know -- I have always been one of those people who feel you must have a solid plan in life.
 
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Gonna pull a rabbit out of my hat here and ask, are you a virgin by chance? ...because, it sounds more like he's asking you to save yourself for him.

(Honestly,I don't know where this stuff comes from ...let's call it intuition!)

Given the situation as you've described, there's definitely more of a "I want to own you" vibe rather than a "I want to be in a committed relationship with you" vibe.

Either way ...bad news.
 
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Mr_Right wrote :
From the limited amount of data, no, it doesn't seem like a good idea.

But then again, you knew that, when you posted this thread.
Agree.

Is it a good idea to commit to him? No, of course not.

His offer is frankly crazy. No one could possibly think agreeing to it is a good idea.
 
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annother is offline annother Post #14  July 31,2010, 4:48pm
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There is something fishy here. Why does he want to move to where you are when you have not yet established an exclusive relationship? It doesn't make sense.

I think he's lonely and he thinks you may be lonely enough that you will take him back. This is not a good reason for him to move or for you to re-start the relationship.

Make a decision about this guy and be really clear about it when you write to him. Don't be wishy-washy. He should not be left with the idea that "maybe" things will work out.
 
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There seems to be a disparity in the strength of feelings.

Upon reflection, he seems to have come to think of you as the one who got away. You on the other hand seem to have put him back in the water, and moved on to another snag (or another lake).
Last edited by angloaustralian; August 2,2010 at 10:08am. Reason: All this needs now is fish picture. Why am I waxing metaphorical of late ?
 
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