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looking4answer is offline looking4answer Post #1  July 2,2010, 3:59pm
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In response to the prior post about the number of partners you had....how do you count it...

Does a Lewinsky count?


What about other circumstances?
 
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I count every women I once spoke to, or sent an e-mail to (even if she did not answer). So ... um ... two.
 
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looking4answer wrote :
In response to the prior post about the number of partners you had....how do you count it...

Does a Lewinsky count?


What about other circumstances?
I think it would be any person you've had any type of sexual encounter with? I don't really know........but I do believe a Lewinsky should count.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I count every women I once spoke to, or sent an e-mail to (even if she did not answer). So ... um ... two.
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How I count it is that everything counts unless I was not actively and consensually particiating in the act (e.g. unconscious, restrained, forced,e tc.) So if anybody ask, I think it's fair to exclude those situations.

However, I dont' nkow, sometimes I still lean with "everythign counts" regardless of the circumstances simply because ~ the reason most people ask today is for "safety/risk" concerns. And in the end, if we're all honest, sex regardless of circumstance adds to the safety/risk concerns.

So let's say i've only had sex with 1 person from a relationship, but somehow I was raped 5 times. Would it be fair to my potential partner asking me to tell them i've only been with 1 person? Is that fair to their safety/risk concerns?

Just brainstorming...
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richey wrote :

So let's say i've only had sex with 1 person from a relationship, but somehow I was raped 5 times. Would it be fair to my potential partner asking me to tell them i've only been with 1 person? Is that fair to their safety/risk concerns?
Are you Debbie Downer? That paragraph should be followed by a wah wah.

I have no idea how someone would address that. I would guess they'd avoid the word 'partner' and say they've had intercourse with 6 people, 5 of whom were prosecuted for it??
 
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Just a hypothetical: If I did a movie, and it was watched by people over and over, would each "performance" then count as an encounter?

Seriously though, I count every woman I've ever been involved with, no matter the circumstance or the "act". If it matters that much to my future partner, then my belief is that I should give them an honest answer. If I hold back on that, what else may I hold back on down the road.
 
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richey wrote :
So let's say i've only had sex with 1 person from a relationship, but somehow I was raped 5 times. Would it be fair to my potential partner asking me to tell them i've only been with 1 person? Is that fair to their safety/risk concerns?
Does this have anything to do with the "Lust" post? Lol.
 
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If there was intimacy, it counts...

Aren't we suppose to be honest? If I found my partner wasn't honest, I would not be able to trust them. Without trust, there is no relationship!
 
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