A question about counting sexual partners


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scarlet13 is offline scarlet13 Post #51  October 31,2010, 6:09am

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first of all, any man who asks me that is going to get a raised eyebrow and that's about it. nor would i ask. it doesn't matter.

secondly- I've never counted, and don't care to. the number has no meaning, so why bother? do you count the number of jelly bellys that are in the bag before you eat them? no.
 
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nepacutie wrote :
And don't men usually inflate?
As in add on?
Like the extra two inches in height and o, lets say,,,,, Wait a minute I am seeing a pattern here.
 
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nepacutie wrote :
And don't men usually inflate?
Hehe, yeah, usually when we see the next woman we want to add to the list...
 
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frogprince wrote :
Unless your count is under 10 I would say don't share your count with your parnter. I always assume women are cutting their counts in half when they tell you.
No. We already assume that you will make that assumption, so its a safe bet that count is actually a reduced reduction.
 
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nunayabizness is offline nunayabizness Post #55  November 1,2010, 2:22pm

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looking4answer wrote :
In response to the prior post about the number of partners you had....how do you count it...

Does a Lewinsky count?


What about other circumstances?
Yes, Lewinski's certainly do count.

(I shall attempt to discuss in the most clinical matter possible)

Some people consider only sex involving reproductive organs of both partners to be sex. They are wrong. By their logic, sex involving the man's reproductive organs but a woman's nearby non-reproductive body part would not count as sex. Well, it most certainly does count as sex. By extension, inserting into another non-reporoductive body part is sex as well.

In short, anything involving any kind of insertion of male parts anywhere counts as sex.
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nunayabizness is offline nunayabizness Post #56  November 1,2010, 2:26pm

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VolGal wrote :
I agree with JTKDP on this one - I believe that sexual intercourse is what is the intent of the question. This has nothing to do with Clinton, what the definition of "is" is, or anything like that, or parsing the definition of it as penetration, organ to organ contact or anything like that.

Oral is just so common that I just don't think it counts.

I'm just saying....

And women will do oral when they aren't sure they want to do the full-blown type (no pun intended ... really).

I only hope this post doesn't get modded.
I think oral is more intimate than nature's intended kind.

I woman who has "lewinskied" 30 dudes but never had vaginal intercourse can hardly be called a virgin.
 
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nunayabizness is offline nunayabizness Post #57  November 1,2010, 2:28pm

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However, just for the record, I never ask that question, and I strongly discourage the conversation altogether.

It is a pandora's box.

These days, no one over 25 years of age is planting any flags, so it is irrelevant.
 
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You can count every partner on every base if you want to including 1.french kiss only 2. making out-kissing and feelskies 3. making out with oral 4. all the way. It's really up to you. There isn't any need to tell anyone about your list. In fact, discussing the entire list with relationship partners is not healthy. If someone asks you about your list, you don't need to tell them. If your pressured into telling them, then you should realize that pressure is not a healthy. If you want to discuss what you've learned from your past without mentioning specific partners and how far the 2 of you went, then go ahead. If you find yourself needing to discuss part partners or curious of your partner's past then there is a problem. Needing to know your partner's past will only inspire jealousy and unhealthiness. Needing to discuss your past is healthy, but should be done with a professional counselor not your love interest. Keep the past behind you and don't let your past partners be on the mind or your current partner. It's rude and it's a big turn off. Discussing your list does not mean that your partner needs to discuss their list. Rape/sexual assault victims do not count rapists as partners, as it is unwanted/unwilling sexual activity. So, discussing the list is not a popular conversation topic for many reasons. 1 in 3 women and 1 in 6 men have had unwilling sexual activity. "Not all that counts can be counted and not all that can be counted counts." - Albert Einstein
 
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