FwrduntoDawn is offline FwrduntoDawn Post #31  March 21,2010, 9:49pm
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Shelby wrote :
Hmmm, methinks the OP must be another one of those "nice guys"...
aww snap my back bone is showing I can not be a nice guy any more
 
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Ok so the OP was used by a woman. I am sure most guys have been in the same boat, me included. That's why it's easy to recognize when someone else is dealing with it.

I think it's important to learn from that experience. The big takeaway for me has been:

How can I spot a user so it doesn't happen again?

A real friend will be honest and just ask for help when needed. A user will manipulate you for it, 'Oh I have a big legal problem at work, wink wink.' 'My rent is due but my work check hasn't come in yet...or my roommate is out of town.' You get the point.

A real friend reciprocates help when possible, out of appreciation of your friendship. A user will blow you off or make excuses whenever you ask for help. Then they will all of a sudden become available when they need something.
 
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we'll never know the truth here on who was doing the using
 
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Nanette wrote :
we'll never know the truth here on who was doing the using
Bingo!
 
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Nanette wrote :
we'll never know the truth here on who was doing the using
Glad to see you can me a reasonable counter point, but how could I have been using her, we were not physical beside a back massage, I would ask her advice on some school matters, go a head and make some accusation you seem to have a nack for it
 
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