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I've found myself in a number of discussions with friends and have found almost universal agreement that long hair in a woman is to be preferred over short hair. By long I mean hair down to her shoulders at least. I don't know why but we all seem to find that more beautiful and just more feminine. That's just the way God seemed to wire us. And of course that doesn't mean we don't like girls with short hair and it doesn't mean that there are no guys who like short hair. It's jus one of those general rules.

My girl recently cut her hair. It's not that I don't think that she is still cute and pretty; I just really liked it better when it was longer. Lord knows that I would trim or grow my hair and/or facial hair if she wanted me to. But I'm sure she won't respond the same way because, well, we guys just take this stuff better than you gals do. No offense intended, that's just the way we were both made. Any ideas folks (especially to you gals) as to how I might want to say this to her?
Not for anything, but as a women with long hair, if I decided out of the blue to cut it short and my boyfriend/husband was hinting that he didnt like it, I would feel really low. Long hair is like a secuity blanket, and by casually mentioning you hate it can do more harm then good.
 
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While I was away for about 3 month my ex grew mustache. I hate mutaches on any men. Period.

I was shocked and totally turned off to the point I didn't want to even kiss him. He looked so different. I always associated mushes with something which I rather not say here (it's personal).

But I let him haveit for about 6month and then convinced him to shave it offin a nice way.

He was getting tired of it anyway so he shaved off. Also the fact that he knew that I didn't like his look with mustache made him grew out of it.

Give her some time. Hair will grow and she will know if you don't like it.
 
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Holiday_101 is offline Holiday_101 Post #33  May 24,2008, 1:41pm
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I'm all for short hair. Why? Because it shows off the nape of the neck which is very sexy on a woman. Kirk-unit seeks V'ger! But as for your partner changing their appearence well people change, or hopefully evolve more into the person they want to be, physically and otherwise. It's either a change that you are going to appreciate or not. If a lot (or enough) of what attracts you to that person is based upon their physical appearence and they change their appearance in a way you are uncomfortable with well you may just have to move on. Be honest and straight up with your partner, but also respectful and considerate.
 
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Ok so I asked a sidebar question to this one on another thread but it got buried. On Match . C O M you have the ability to say what turns you on and what turns you off. Out of 32 pages of women in my area I found 1 who found long hair a turn on and nearly every other women on there said they thought long hair was a turn off WTF is up with that. I don't have long hair mine is really short and naturally curly but I'm curious about this phenomenon with the women. Is it Mullets that turn you off, or is it Fabio style long hair that turns you off? Does long facial hair turn you off or do all women in Denver prefer there men with a clean shaven twig and berries?

I love long hair on guys, as long as it's clean and not too thin and scraggly. Facial hair is great, too. Think Robert Plant, either in 1970 or right now - his hair is gorgeous (and the rest of him ain't bad, either!)





Not too crazy about super-long hair or beards, though (no ZZ Top for me, thanks). Those styles are hard to keep looking neat and healthy.





As for hair in other places, yeah, men should have it. There's such a wide variation in hair patterns that I'm sure guys get insecure about whether they have too much/not enough chest hair, etc, but don't worry about it. If a woman is really into you, anything within the average range will be fine.





But, um, no razors or hot wax near the twig and berries, okay?
Yep, I gotta say leave those twigs and berries au natural. A man with a ponytail is always sexy, but I gotta say sexy has to do with the man and not the hair. My sweetheart is constantly saying he needs a haircut and he is sexy no matter what. Freshly cut hair or needing a haircut. He's perfect.
 
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rninerie,121124 wrote :

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But, um, no razors or hot wax near the twig and berries, okay?


Yes please....that would be really, really freaky. Haven't seen that yet on a man and hope I never do.
Seen it~did not care for it. It's cooler is the reply I got... and I did it for you.


WTF! Not for me you didn't. Leave the boys alone.
 
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I've found myself in a number of discussions with friends and have found almost universal agreement that long hair in a woman is to be preferred over short hair. By long I mean hair down to her shoulders at least. I don't know why but we all seem to find that more beautiful and just more feminine. That's just the way God seemed to wire us. And of course that doesn't mean we don't like girls with short hair and it doesn't mean that there are no guys who like short hair. It's jus one of those general rules.


My girl recently cut her hair. It's not that I don't think that she is still cute and pretty; I just really liked it better when it was longer. Lord knows that I would trim or grow my hair and/or facial hair if she wanted me to. But I'm sure she won't respond the same way because, well, we guys just take this stuff better than you gals do. No offense intended, that's just the way we were both made. Any ideas folks (especially to you gals) as to how I might want to say this to her?
I hate to say this but the majority of women would flip out if you said anything about it.


It really depends a lot on her personality.


I am on a very, very popular "beauty" board and have been posting there since maybe 2001, and the vast majority of women there encourage each other to cut their hair short and in addition to that they say sc*rrew what the husband/boyfriend thinks. I don't condone this, I am just saying that this is the attitude of many women these days, so unless she is really different, I wouln't bother saying anything.


She didn't ask you in the first place, that is probably the best sign of what her reaction will be, unfortunately.
 
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Why don't you just say to her, 'I really like you hair longer, is there anychance you will grow it back'? I don't understand why people are so relunctant to tell the truth. If she can't take a comment about her hair (TRIVIAL) how is she going to handle serious issues.


I hear newly married men complain all the time about their new bride's immediately cutting their hair short as soon as they get married and those women that hit a certain age and don't think long hair is allowed anymore. I will never understand this.


As someone else mentioned, long hair does NOT take more work than short hair. I have long hair more than half way down my back - and it takes 1 minute tops to put some gel in it - I let it airdry naturally - this doesn't take long either. That's just an excuse. If you don't like it and prefer short hair just say so - don't try to tie it to maintenance!
 
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ncl, wrote :

I've found myself in a number of discussions with friends and have found almost universal agreement that long hair in a woman is to be preferred over short hair. By long I mean hair down to her shoulders at least. I don't know why but we all seem to find that more beautiful and just more feminine. That's just the way God seemed to wire us. And of course that doesn't mean we don't like girls with short hair and it doesn't mean that there are no guys who like short hair. It's jus one of those general rules.


My girl recently cut her hair. It's not that I don't think that she is still cute and pretty; I just really liked it better when it was longer. Lord knows that I would trim or grow my hair and/or facial hair if she wanted me to. But I'm sure she won't respond the same way because, well, we guys just take this stuff better than you gals do. No offense intended, that's just the way we were both made. Any ideas folks (especially to you gals) as to how I might want to say this to her?
Get over it,,,,,,you are in the 2000's not the 80's. We all know that guys generally like longer hair so ifshe has short hair you must look at her as one secure independent chick with a mind of her own, what is better than that???? definately not long hair! Did you ever think????maybe she doen not care what your opinion is about it so think before you speak! Sincerely,,,just the truth,,, not harm or rudness intended! good luck
 
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Ohmigosh! You actually have a girlfriend? What are you doing here? With regard to hair: SAY ABSOLUTELY NOTHING about your preferences. Praise her new 'do ("It's great that you're into trying new things/trying something different/are so versatile..." etc.) and revel in the fantasy of being with a, "new woman." But certainly don't make a fuss about wanting it otherwise.
 
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ncl, wrote :

I've found myself in a number of discussions with friends and have found almost universal agreement that long hair in a woman is to be preferred over short hair. By long I mean hair down to her shoulders at least. I don't know why but we all seem to find that more beautiful and just more feminine. That's just the way God seemed to wire us. And of course that doesn't mean we don't like girls with short hair and it doesn't mean that there are no guys who like short hair. It's jus one of those general rules.


My girl recently cut her hair. It's not that I don't think that she is still cute and pretty; I just really liked it better when it was longer. Lord knows that I would trim or grow my hair and/or facial hair if she wanted me to. But I'm sure she won't respond the same way because, well, we guys just take this stuff better than you gals do. No offense intended, that's just the way we were both made. Any ideas folks (especially to you gals) as to how I might want to say this to her?
If she asks you, fine, let her know you's like her to let it grow out again. If she doesn't ask it's none of your business. You're not the one who has to take care of it and wear it even when you aren't around. You have to decide whether you want her no matter what her hair is like or not.


Frankly if it's that important to you SHE needs to move on.
 
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