Elin and Tiger: can (and should) this marriage be saved?


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Elin Nordegren hopes to save marriage - CNN.com

What do you guys think? Is it admirable to very publicly stay in a loveless marriage so marred by adultery? Or should they go their separate ways?

If they should stay together -- do you think it's really possible to do so?
 
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In my humble opinion, only they, no one else, have the right to decide whether this marriage is worth saving.
 
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I don't find it admirable. The idea of staying in a marriage 'for the kids' depresses me and I don't even think it's good for the kids in the long run.

No easy way to deal with that Elin and Tiger situation, sadly :-(
 
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FairOne wrote :
I don't even think it's good for the kids in the long run.
The data suggests it isn't. The kids will look to their parents as a model of relationships - that we know. What is modeled to them will shape them - that we know. I am not sure what positive signs they will get from being with parents who are together but are not at the same time.

At the same time, I completely agree with Daphnie.

I hope for their sakes - if they choose to stick together - that they both do the work to make a great relationship.
 
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FairOne wrote :
I don't find it admirable. The idea of staying in a marriage 'for the kids' depresses me and I don't even think it's good for the kids in the long run.
My parents stayed together for me, when everyone else said that they were better off getting a divorce. Neither of them cheated. They just fought ALL the time.

After I went to college, things between my parents took a sharp turn. They learned to accept differences and appreciate each other as they were. Now people are saying they are the sweetest couple.

My point is, how long is long enough to say whether it is good "in the long run"? Marriage is somehow like a pair of shoes, only the one who is wearing them knows how comfortable/uncomfortable they are.
 
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Daphnie wrote :
My parents stayed together for me, when everyone else said that they were better off getting a divorce. Neither of them cheated. They just fought ALL the time.

After I went to college, things between my parents took a sharp turn. They learned to accept differences and appreciate each other as they were. Now people are saying they are the sweetest couple.

My point is, how long is long enough to say whether it is good "in the long run"? Marriage is somehow like a pair of shoes, only the one who is wearing them knows how comfortable/uncomfortable they are.
Daphnie,
I'm really glad things worked out for your parents. You don't see that every day! But I've found, along the lines of what jcw mentioned, that kids growing up with a tumultuous relationship as a model often have some issues around that. Ones that could've possibly been avoided.

I agree that no one other than the people in a marriage know what's truly happening in that marriage. But Lori asked so I answered
 
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Fairone:

The way I see it is, we all have issues or flaws, one way or the other. Had my parents divorced, would I now be a more normal person? No one can answer that question.

When I was a kid, I was terrified at the idea of my parents getting a divorce. In my adolescence, I asked them to get a divorce for their own sake. Now, I am glad that they have each other.
 
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Can you say "money, money, money?"

Of course you can.

I remember being in an university class: I was an adult, but this was a required course usually offered as a first semester, and it was full of 19 year olds.

All these pretty ... girls ... with the brand new cars daddy bought them, all absolutely convinced the Clintons would divorce.

I tried and tried, but failed, to convince them that power would keep the Clintons together. (I wonder what they would believe today, with a decade of actual life experience?)

I'll say it here, too, though I know emotionally-driven people just don't get it: not everyone does, or would, feel betrayal. Some, such as myself, are mainly nonplussed or bemused by infidelity.

If I had a wife of extraordinary stature (such as the president), and she had sex with some Arnold-look-alike from the gym, I'd probably just raise my eyebrow and maybe make a Joke.

Now, Tiger and Mrs. might be too young for Mrs. to think, and he isn't the president ... so, don't much have any idea.
 
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He cheated it's O-V-E-R.
 
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