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Fleuellen is offline Fleuellen Post #1  January 25,2010, 4:38am
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On another thread, another poster chirped in with "And what is a serious and committed relationship?"

[COLOR=black]I figure that is an excellent question. I also suggest that having read a number of posts on EHa that few folk have much of a "clue." Or rather they seem to delude themselves as to what they may mean, reducing matters down to trivia.
 
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Discuss what exactly?
 
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I think the term has a very broad meaning, maybe to the point of being useless. Certainly, married couples are in a committed relationship, but it also includes the examples you listed.
 
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This is actually a very interesting thread... I keep being told that there is a difference between:

"dating exclusively"

and

being in a "relationship"

I have still not figured that one out!
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
Discuss what exactly?
what it means to you to be in a "relationship"
 
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Daphnie is offline Daphnie Post #6  January 25,2010, 12:57pm
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To me, when you are dating, a committed relationship means nothing more than exclusivity. When you are in a long-term relationship, both you have agreed to work towards marriage.
 
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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #7  January 25,2010, 2:29pm

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committed relationship is a term people pull out when they want to excuse a decision. I don't want to have sex, I want to date more than one person, I am not sure if I can bring a toothbrush, etc. So much easier to say you are or are not because it doesn't fit this ever shifting definition of a committed relationship.
 
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Oh boo whoever rated you as one star Jo..I thought it was a great paragraph.

CR means exactly what the 2 people (or the person who brought the phrase uo in the first place) thinks it means.

If someone has to have a dose of guilt with their sex life then the guilt can be mitigated by saying shes in a CR.

If a guy is hot for a girl and knows he isn't going to get any without being committed (that is an intentional play on words by the way) then saying "Yeah Baby, I love you and you're my steady babe" is what he may do.

And, if a couple thinks theres potential for a future of X length ahead of them, they call that a CR or exclusive or steady or even marriage, try each other on for size and see what comes of it. No matter what it's called, there aren't any guarantee's that calling it anything will make it what they want.

And NO-not all guys, not all girls, not all couples do this...it's all fluid-much of it artificial and no I'm not a cynic. I'm a realist.

But what does it mean? With a few hundred posters on these boards, you'll collect a few hundred meanings.
 
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Ya know I never notice those stars unless someone points them out. Yeah so those that wish to make me sad, try again. OH my! They gave me one star I think I will go cry in my coffee.

I love the OP and I am not dissing him. If you want a definition of committed relationship well google it. If not it is what whoever makes of it.
 
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Daphnie wrote :
To me, when you are dating, a committed relationship means nothing more than exclusivity. When you are in a long-term relationship, both you have agreed to work towards marriage.
I agree with the first but not the second-a LTR can be just that. With no marriage in mind. Simply a couple who have agreed to be together for the future as long as it works for them.

Thats why asking someone else to define this is futile.

And, for the record, I like the OP also.
 
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