Confused.

I would just like to say I have been peeking at this board on and off and have found it very helpful. I am hoping some of you on here can help me sort out this puzzle.
I have been seeing a 41 - never been married (gasp) man since early october. I am divorced single mom. He is a successful, intelligent, beautiful man, who I fell head over heels for. We meet on yours-truly ( eharm). The relationship progressed and I - love- you's have been exchanged. He is a relatively gaurded person.
My true love had made a big production out of the fact that he had found the one (me) and was closing his account with eharm a few weeks after we started dating. He also assisted me in ensuring mine was closed. He had a situation last week with a former match "stalking" ( his words, not mine) to his place of work. I had his password ( he had given it to me but it was still very wrong of me to check I know) so I decided to log on and see what was happening. Well low and behold he still has a profile up, and in fact renewed it the end of November. I don't think he is dating actively but he still checks his matches and sends the occassional ice breaker. I confronted him on this and told him I was dissappointed in his dishonesty. He denied, and then after realizing he was busted was silent. I texted him a couple days later and apologised for going into his account , that I know it was wrong. I also requested that we at least talk this out and see where things stand. He has not called or replied. I am hurt because I have not forced my way into this guys life - he could have let me know he wanted to continue to explore matches. Any thoughts and feelings on this? Any input would help me wrap my mind around this. Thanks!

He gave me his password to other accounts - just so happened that it worked for eharm. I do know this was wrong, but after he told me about this chick showing up at work, I had a feeling that maybe there was more to the story.
Maybe some guys get an ego boost out of continuing to get the winks and nods from potential matches? Maybe he's still looking?
Chasing a phantom - I like that!

You guys are awesome! Veteran - I guess the one thing that always bugged me a bit was that he was so gaurded and required a bit of patience breaking through some walls. He also limited his time to just twice a week at first, but was actually becoming more available. I just assumed that he wanted to take things slow...