Bad Match or Just a Rough Patch?

Bad Match or Just a Rough Patch?

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When arguments get more frequent, one question will inevitably surface: are we wrong for each other? Learn simple ways to differentiate between a bad match and a rough patch.
 
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Evangelist` is offline Evangelist` Post #2  December 29,2007, 1:02am
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After a long career as a legal secretary, I've seen/learned that "nothing breaks up a 2nd marriage like children from the first." I feel its important to obtain the endorsement of the fiance's family and grown children, as in my case. Yes, you DO marry the whole family. There are too many holidays that can cause conflict because you/your partner will not be received well by the in-laws. Of course, the couple can decide to cut all ties and move away. Just keep in mind, that EVERYTHING has its price tag. Your life's partner should be one who will encourage/help you to grow, learn, achieve your goals, feel great about yourself, listen toyou and love you.l
 
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outstanding reasoning viewd here. doesn't make the decision making process any easier though!
 
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I agree 100% very well said,wish i could have read something like this back in the days. GOOD LUCK to all that read and need to hear this.
 
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You want to know what a good relationship is? Look at who has been married a long time over 20 years and still counting, older people who are still togather, ask them how they keep it going, love is not all that it cracks up to be. Two people who think they are in love should live togather for at least a year to get to know each other or longer,,,if you whant kids though, then you had better be shoure you are in love and have the understanding and patience to live and take care of each other and the kids in life......living in todays times is very very hard on young people who have no idear of what to expect out of life..........thank you
 
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hurtandconfused is offline hurtandconfused Post #6  December 29,2007, 9:32am
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When in a long term relationship and during an unexpected health issue, which would take time to overcome and you find out your partner is being unfaithful since being on treatments, how can you put this behind and trust this person you once thought to be the one person you could rely on and trust without any doubts? To be hurt like this is a very hard thing to forget even though this matter is never talked about since the confrontation. Never has he said "I am sorry" and asked for forgiveness....just acts like it never happened!
 
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at age 57, with years of therapy and recovery from addicton, I still find myself drawn to the wrong women. I've come to believe I'm attracted to women who represent my mother, a cold, un-affectionate, emotionaly unavaliable woman, who never has a word of encouragement or praise, for me. Why the hell it took me this long to figure this out......? years of input that said I was the problem.
 
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KEEPING IN MIND THAT LOVE IS A FOUR LETTER WORD AND GIVEN WAY TO MUCH POWER. THERE ARE TO MANY WORDS THAT WE TEND TO NOT PLACE ENOUGH IMPORTANCE IN OUR RELATIONSHIP,TRUST, RESPECT, LOYALITY,COMMITMENT,LAUGHTER AND COMMUNICATION. MY PARENTS WERE MARRIED FOR 86 YEARS AND WHEN ASKED HOW THEY PERFORMED THIS FEAT IT
WAS SAID 1 DAY AT A TIME AND NEVER GOING TO BED WITH ANGER.
 
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momof3 is offline momof3 Post #9  December 29,2007, 2:45pm
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I'ts just so hard when you love someone and have a child that they are tottally not who you married and only after a year and been seperated for almost a year now! I know my family says move on its just hard and i don't want to make that wrong choice its so hard im young and being a single mother of 3 is very scary and so i guess i keep up that hope that he will change.......
 
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We all begin with enchantment and emphatuation, then proceed to
cooperation or power struggles. While "keeping score" may not be advisable in the "years" version of a relationship, on the onslaught, reciprocity is a reasonabel measure of potential.
We all know that patience and tolerance are a good meld in our attempted winning hand but many of us are fixers (delusional), looking for a stray "Kitty" or "Tom" to tame or tantalize. While this is an interesting amusement, it can quickly turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy of one-sided love; to most of us known as irrational obsession.
I believe that Love cannot exist, nor can a relationship without reciprocity and moving on together is determined by its presence.
 
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