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landstar59 is offline landstar59 Post #1  December 7,2009, 7:31am
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In light of all the media attention drawn toward Tiger Woods and his purported cheating...if you are in what seems to be a loving relationship and your spouse has cheated on you, unknowingly to you, ( as obvious in the case with Elin and Tiger, until the dirt came out in National Enquirer of all places) would you want to know? They say what you don't know doesn't hurt you. Is that true to you if it were a one time indescretion? Cheating is cheating, but honestly would you want to know?
 
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yep i would want to know. i would have a decision to make.
 
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ditto -- wanna know.
 
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i would want to know; i want to know what/whom i'm dealing with and allowing into my extremely personal space!!
 
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SweetKatieA is offline SweetKatieA Post #5  December 7,2009, 8:35am
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You say that now,but have you ever been cheated on? It's truly heart breaking and something you never recover from. You view people, in their entirety, in a completely different light and learn not to trust anyone.

They say people who cheat, even just one time, and tell their partner are being selfish. They want to relieve any guilt they're feeling and if they're willing to work on themselves and never do it again, then what's the point of telling your partner and hurting them?

Then again, my ex husband cheated on me, and it wasn't just a one time thing, and now I'm glad that I know. : )
 
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SweetKatieA wrote :
You say that now,but have you ever been cheated on? It's truly heart breaking and something you never recover from. You view people, in their entirety, in a completely different light and learn not to trust anyone.

They say people who cheat, even just one time, and tell their partner are being selfish. They want to relieve any guilt they're feeling and if they're willing to work on themselves and never do it again, then what's the point of telling your partner and hurting them?

Then again, my ex husband cheated on me, and it wasn't just a one time thing, and now I'm glad that I know. : )
This is exactly what I am talking about. If you put yourself in Elin Wood's shoes you can feel her pain. The more I thought about it I don't think I'd want to know of a one time indescretion especially if they vowed to themselves to never repeat it again. However, I sometimes feel if two people are so devoted to one another and have the ultimate communication between each other, that if the other did cheat they would have that knowledge from intuition regarding the infidelity. Sometimes I think we let things cloud our vision and it keeps us from seeing the reality as it is.

I have to say I am shocked by all the accusations against Tiger. The truth is though that being the high profile person he is, he has women throwing themselves at him all the time. I know this because I used to help make a living in the world of golf and a friend who was a professional golfer had personally seen some of Tiger's fan mail, pictures included (with offers), Another friend who is an ex-NFL player told my son the same thing, women were always throwing themselves at their feet and many succumbed to the ego. No one can make another person happy or content 24/7, if that is not already within that person, I personally think things can go astray and there is nothing you can do to change that.
 
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Just keep in mind that by not knowing you could be at risk for std's/hiv/aids and wouldn't know to be tested.
 
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I am being totally objective with this....I dont know if he cheated until there is evidence. Is it possible...sure.

Given his stature and popularity level there are going to be people who claim it but it never really happened.

There are numerous example of women claiming sexual assult occured that they were cleared of the charges.

Is there a player in any other sport that could attract this attention because of an affair?

It willbe interesting to see how many whack a moles come out on this.


Did you see the SNL skit on this it was hilarious.
 
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Add me to the "would want to know" camp, for the reasons cited by newbie40something, Nanette, Scamprdnz, and others.
 
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Love SweetKatieA's status message today and my two cents on the subject...as far as my personal experience goes...most people would rather be in the dark...yes I was a messenger and was put down like a deer during hunting season ( I had a 10+ year friendship with the woman). Not only that....had a lot of residual flack from my family members in regards to my actions. My conscious is clean and maybe next time people will learn to be more discrete around me because I don't like to be in situations where I feel I have to make that decision. It also meant I had to move out in the middle of winter (snow, ice and all) and would have left sooner had it not been that I needed a few more check cycles in order to procure my own apartment. I will always be eternally grateful for my co-worker and her husband who helped me move after only knowing me for a little over a month. Cheating hurts innocent bystanders as well
 
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