Are your relationships a good influence on you AND those around you?


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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  November 20,2009, 5:30pm
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When you are in a relationship. does it induce a positive ripple effect in your life to the extent that it improves other, non-relationship areas of your life?

Does that positivity even extend to other people? How?
 
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In my friendships, definitely.

In romantic relationships, sometimes. Otherwise, I have to fall back on the Catherine Aird quote: If you can't be a good example, then you'll just have to serve as a horrible warning.

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I want to say, "maybe."

I do think having a quality partner is an advanatge to men - especially is he is in an employment role where having a wife is the norm.
 
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I think Lori has been spending time in the Zen garden today Personally I cannot offer much of an example as those past relationships weren't much of a relationship to begin with but as far as my parents go....yes their relationship was. When you engage in good healthy relationships it has a life of its own that ripples out. Not only do you give better advice but serve as an example that yes...it can work...and yes you can overcome obstacles.

I know of one young married couple (friends of the family) that were on the verge of dissolving the relationship on two different occasions in their relationship...at one time because a relative of the wife made the husband feel insecure because her business was generating more money than his and another occasion when the husband had a one night stand. On both occasions they sought my parent's counsel.Today they are nurturing a healthy relationship themselves and able to live a financially comfortable lifestyle as they put all their teenage children through college.

Second example....my father was at a party with his friend. They were both freshly married. There was a woman at the party who was approaching the men at the party (my father was a quite man but a keen observer). She approached his friend and was enticing enough that he was almost out the door with her if it wasn't for the fact that my father intervened in the situation. He reminded his friend about the good situation he had at home to jeopardize it on such a person. He agreed and he was married to his wife for almost as long as my parents till death separated them.

My parents weren't perfect...at times they were like cats and dogs like any normal couple....but they always had a high regard and respect for one another and that rippled out to others around them.
 
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Lilycat is offline Lilycat Post #5  November 20,2009, 6:55pm
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Yes it does, if you are happy in one area of your life, it naturally spills into others..... at least that's how it works for me lol

But it must be a good solid relationship to do that for me.....

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