gr8guy is offline gr8guy Post #21  November 24,2009, 5:05pm
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winn is offline winn Post #22  November 24,2009, 10:08pm

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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I am sure that a great many are going to disagree with me on this one but ........

It is unlikely that a purely sexual relationship is going to turn into an emotionally based committed long term relationship. This is a concept that women tend to believe or hope for.
I agree with what you say about sexual relationships don't usually turn into an emotionally committed relationships but I don't agree that this is what women tend to believe or hope for. I kind of winced when you made that blanket statement. This woman here has steered clear of sexual relationships outside already committed emotional relationships because I would be a fool to think that hopping in bed with a man and having sex was was going to make him fall madly in love with me. Besides, the gift of my body aint going to be given to anyone who doesn't love me first.
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Geegirl123 is offline Geegirl123 Post #23  November 24,2009, 11:07pm
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I just ended a relationship that was purely sexual. I always thought that a more meaningful relationship would come out of it, and unfortunately got hurt when nothing really came out of it. The 'writing was on the wall' but for some reasons I walked blindly through the relationship. I plan to enjoy this holiday season and not look back on the disaster that has occurred these past few months.
 
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LizziePooh is offline LizziePooh Post #24  November 25,2009, 2:46pm

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Hi Unique,

I don't think you should be asking us if a man could possibly develop feelings for someone that they are having sex with.

I think the thing that you should be thinking about is - you know that you have developed feelings for this man. So you need to decide if you want to continue with the just sex or if you want to just tell him that you would like more than just sex and would like to see him romantically.

We can't tell you if this guy has feelings for you. You need to decide if you just want to continue on and not saying anything or say something knowing that that may be it.

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krystal101 is offline krystal101 Post #25  November 25,2009, 9:22pm
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FWB situations seem really good for those who are rebounding, those who are players and want to sleep around, those who are only physically attracted to someone and nothing else, those who are not ready to date seriously or don't want to date seriously, those who fear relationships, those who don't want emotional ties, those seeking ego boosts and self-gratification...

FWB seem not so good for those who want to fall in love, are ready to fall in love, are attracted to someone on many levels, have high self esteems, need to heal from a past hurt, want love and respect and exclusivity along with that friendship and sex...

I have done this, friends have done this... I have seen both men and women get blinded by hormones thinking the FWB was the greatest thing in the world, wanting to turn it into more only to find out the FWB is sleeping around, sleeping with the ex, had nothing in common with them, is not someone they even LIKE or would like if it wasn't for the fact that they started to sleep together.

FWB can be a great situation-- you can have fun and sex and not have to deal with any of the perceived negatives that a relationship may bring. You don't have the responsibilities, the expectations... it's casual and easy... but it is lacking in substance and a deeper connection. someone can easily end up having the cake and eating it, too , while the other ends up with crumbs. It is only going to last as long as both parties are happy with it.

To want more than FWB is only natural. It can get old easily, and we all want something deeper, especially when physically involved. You would have to date him to get to know him to see if you really want more with HIM and are not just blinded by hormones. You could try to set up dates where it will not end in sex. you could try to tell him you are feeling like you want more and are curious if he feels the same. But then you would have to actually date and not be in the bedroom. if he is stuck on the ex, i would not expect much from him at all. FWB is a good way to avoid the painful process of letting go of someone and healing. People like to say it is a great way to move on, but to really move on, you should give yourself time to heal and not get involved with anyone.

If you really want more, then you will want to end the FWB situation, right? Either he agrees and wants to date you, too and you go on dates and hold off on sex and see if you like him and he likes you...
or you let him go so you are free to get what you want somewhere else.

It is a messy situation to start backward. I personally, do not have as much respect for men that do that. when a guy wants to sleep with me right away or wants FWB, i don't look at him with the same respect or seriousness. I don't trust guys like that. So i would assume they probably have a hard time looking at me as girlfriend material if I am so willing to FWB.
 
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TheZohan is offline TheZohan Post #26  November 28,2009, 4:51pm
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I didn't make this up but what's the saying...I think it's, "more than 5 times and there's emotional attachment"!

I know a business owner that was sleeping with his accountant (she's on the payroll) and this friends with benefits lasted for a good 8 years or so. Things were supposedly just strictly sex and it was mutually understood until she fell in love with someone else and decided to move on. He was crushed and it was at that time that he knew he was truely in love with her.

Who knows, maybe you should try letting it go and see where that goes. If he really does want you for more than just sex, he'll pursue you...and if he doesn't pursue you, you would have saved yourself some time anyways.
 
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