Frustrated & Confused: Is He A Sexual Addict???


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nightling is offline nightling Post #71  November 24,2009, 2:28pm
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Follow the bouncing ball op's you missed it.
No body is forcing her to stay with him, so why is she there?

If she wanted him out she could get a restraining order!

I would say anyone who picks out that type mate for herself really has a boatload of personal problems and they are breaking through the surface now.

What's your excuse for picking a clod?

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It'd sure be nice if everyone wore a sticker on their forehead announcing their cloddishness. Some people are quite good at hiding who they really are until you sign in blood on some dotted line and they feel safe. Then they feel they've got carte blanche to ignore your needs.

And there I stuck up for you and all.
 
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And there I stuck up for you and all.
Where is that sticker when you need it?
 
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How about a "Scarlet C" ?
 
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True, she would have waited longer in the relationship before calling or becoming his partner, but he has all the red flags of a sexual addict.
I have that problem. My husband complains that I want it every day. He's happy with once a week! And when it is it's very vanilla.
I know I have a problem, went to SA about it. I've learned over the years to control it, but I love porn, toys, anything and anyway. Since he made a commitment, he has become very reserved.
It's role reversal. It's frustrating. If I don't get it regularly it affects my mood and attitude so much that HE'S remarked on the change in my attitude!
What do I do?!
 
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nightling wrote :
It'd sure be nice if everyone wore a sticker on their forehead announcing their cloddishness. Some people are quite good at hiding who they really are until you sign in blood on some dotted line and they feel safe. Then they feel they've got carte blanche to ignore your needs.

And there I stuck up for you and all.
But you didn't answer the questions and making up new words? You can do better or can you? I only replied to the post, but the OP ducked out without clarifying a lot of questions?

So it's null and void. I believe that he wanted what he wanted, but she was turned off but she did not know to change the basic structure of their relationship. It's like having 50/lbs. of Ice Cream in the freezer and you lose your desire for Ice Cream!

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Harvey7 wrote :
But you didn't answer the questions and making up new words? You can do better or can you? I only replied to the post, but the OP ducked out without clarifying a lot of questions?

So it's null and void. I believe that he wanted what he wanted, but she was turned off but she did not know to change the basic structure of their relationship. It's like having 50/lbs. of Ice Cream in the freezer and you lose your desire for Ice Cream!


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Hmmm...I'd say it's more like ordering 50 lbs of ice cream, sticking it in the freezer, then going back to open it and finding out that it's actually 50 lbs of donkey p o o p.
 
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Harvey7 wrote :
But you didn't answer the questions and making up new words? You can do better or can you? I only replied to the post, but the OP ducked out without clarifying a lot of questions?

So it's null and void. I believe that he wanted what he wanted, but she was turned off but she did not know to change the basic structure of their relationship. It's like having 50/lbs. of Ice Cream in the freezer and you lose your desire for Ice Cream!

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I'm a writer Harvey. Making up new words comes with the territory.

I did answer your question as to why I made my mistake but I'll say it another way for ya. Coz I'm a writer and I can do that, too.

The guy didn't let his inner jerk out until after I signed in blood on the dotted line. He felt like I wouldn't leave bc I married him. But he was wrong.

Now why are you picking on me? I think I am the ONLY lady in the thread who defended your point!

 
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Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #78  November 26,2009, 8:09am

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I'm a writer Harvey. Making up new words comes with the territory.

I did answer your question as to why I made my mistake but I'll say it another way for ya. Coz I'm a writer and I can do that, too.

The guy didn't let his inner jerk out until after I signed in blood on the dotted line. He felt like I wouldn't leave bc I married him. But he was wrong.

Now why are you picking on me? I think I am the ONLY lady in the thread who defended your point!

In answer to your question, because you are a writer you are also full of answers! I believe it's called tit for tat.

Where did you go when you left da jerk? (A nice vacation and max the cards out or home to Moma's?) You defended me? Would you also like to invite me to a rock fight?
 As I write to you I'm listening to West side story it sets the mood for the day!

Well happy thanksgiving!

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In answer to your question, because you are a writer you are also full of answers! I believe it's called tit for tat.

Where did you go when you left da jerk? (A nice vacation and max the cards out or home to Moma's?) You defended me? Would you also like to invite me to a rock fight?
 As I write to you I'm listening to West side story it sets the mood for the day!

Well happy thanksgiving!

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I found myself a job in a city four hours away ...

Yeah I did defend your point. The woman needs to figure out why she got into that relationship. Again, I do not see what your beef is with me.

Rock fight? Might be a fun date. Not.
 
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