timeless2 is offline timeless2 Post #1  November 12,2009, 9:28am
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We seem to be divided on who makes the first move, who pays, and who wears the pants....
Following this line, is it acceptable for the woman to ask the man if he would like to get married? And how you feel asking or being asked? As a guy, would it be any less of a joyful event? Surely the topic has been touched on before?
 
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If I am understanding your question correctly, do mean a women being the one to propose, or just asking the question if I do want to get married someday?

I am traditional in the sense that I would prefer to be the one asking. However if a women was to propose ( btw this happens daily) to me. It would not be a less joyful event. I would be suprised, as I would never would have expected it. I feel with a guy a women can probably sense a proposal is coming. I tend to think in todays society more couples discuss engagements prior to them happening.


Add: I do hope my wedding reception will be pants-less.The open bar should do the trick!
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timeless2 wrote :
We seem to be divided on who makes the first move, who pays, and who wears the pants....
Following this line, is it acceptable for the woman to ask the man if he would like to get married? And how you feel asking or being asked? As a guy, would it be any less of a joyful event? Surely the topic has been touched on before?
If she's proposing, she better have purchased her own ring already!!Don't ask me to get down on my knees either. I have bad knees!

But generally speaking, I'm fine if a woman asked whether I wanted to get married or not. My short answer would be yes, sometime in the future.

Depending on the question too...if this is an EH first date, I might get a little skeerd...but I will still answer the question.
 
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CapnCrunch23 wrote :
... However if a women was to propose ( btw this happens daily) to me...
You must be exhausted from warding off all the womenz!
 
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alissag wrote :
You must be exhausted from warding off all the womenz!
It's just one.. btw you haven't asked me yet today

back on topic..

I do not have an issue if a women asked me if i ever wanted to get married.. I believe It's a fair question that should be asked the beginning of any relationship
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If, as a couple, you are seriously heading in that direction, does it matter who asks?

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My second husband (the only one that counts!) knew I wanted to marry him long before he caved and asked!

He still paid for the ring, and he wore the pants! Except for those times when we were otherwise.....Indisposed.

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I greatly doubt I would ever be inclined to ask him to marry me.
 
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I just finished dating a woman that I nearly told: "You'll need to propose to me" reason being the On again-Off again nature of the {nearly 2 year} relationship. She kept wanting to see other people. I'm a one woman man.

To me, it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to offer to pay at times...On a first meeting and also on the first date, it's something that I make clear that I'm covering. She can offer when the check arrives, I'm not offended in any way, but I won't accept her paying half.

Yes, I've spent a fair amount on nice first dates that went no further. I'm OK with that.
 
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You're talking about an actual proposal, right? "Will you marry me?" ... rather than a hypothetical "do you want to get married someday, to somebody?"

I've never done it. I guess if I got to a point in a relationship where I either wanted to get married, or learn that I will never marry this guy, or end it, then I hope I would ask. Might be easier to ask "Will you ask me to marry you?"
 
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