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paula2 is offline paula2 Post #1  November 10,2009, 5:24pm
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Hi. I have an online BF since june2008, we have never met in person but we love each other. He cant travel soon to meet me yet but he is planning. 1 girl contacted me saying my bf denied me, he denied me to 2 women and he is still in dating site I saw his profiles somebody sent the link to his profiles, he is in few dating site, what do you think? he is not paying these sites, he is hiding his profile, what do you think?
 
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I don't know where to begin.

There's no such thing as an "online BF." There's no love, either.

Online dating sites are place to meet people.

You should have given this up long ago, as should have he (if he is for real - not that that matters to your question.)
 
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An "online boyfriend?" I cannot even begin to figure out how this would work, if I even thought it was possible.

My personal opinion is that in order to have a relationship with a person, you must meet them and see what they are like face-to-face. You need to see if there is any chemistry and if you are even attracted to each other in any way. Can you communicate in person? Do you enjoy each other's company? And even then, it takes time to develop a relationship.

If he hasn't met you in a year and a half, I'd say he's not going to. Don't you think you deserve to be with someone who is actually going to be able to make the time to meet you? If you were seeing each other on a regular basis in a regular relationship and he was doing this, would you tolerate it?

I think you need to forget about him and find someone who will actually spend some quality time with you, getting to know you, and appreciating the woman you are.

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paula2 wrote :
Hi. I have an online BF since june2008, we have never met in person but we love each other. He cant travel soon to meet me yet but he is planning. 1 girl contacted me saying my bf denied me, he denied me to 2 women and he is still in dating site I saw his profiles somebody sent the link to his profiles, he is in few dating site, what do you think? he is not paying these sites, he is hiding his profile, what do you think?

Until you meet him face to face, you don't even know him. How can you possibly waste a year and a half of your life and not even meet ? I almost feel stupid even responding to this... Stop wasting your time with this loser.
 
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Stop wasting your time with this loser.

Takes two to tango.
 
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What they said. All of it.

People online are just digital bits until you meet. Even then it takes a long time to get to know someone.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #7  November 10,2009, 7:39pm

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Many women here are my online girlfriends.

(maybe this is why I'm always tired).
 
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PY_2 wrote :
Many women here are my online girlfriends.

(maybe this is why I'm always tired).
LOL. But in response to the OP, I had an "online bf" when I was quite young, and it was all very naive and it was fun, and when it ended, it ended with little emotional pain because let's face it, we didn't know each other that well and weren't that close.

Not sure what your situation is -- but if it's harmless like that, it's cool. I wouldn't expect too much (mine was more of a friendship) until you guys actually meet and start spending more real life time with each other.
 
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What Everybody Else Said (um, except for PY_2, who does get a chuckle).
 
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paula2 is offline paula2 Post #10  November 11,2009, 4:35am
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he is in USA I am from Philippines, he is far.
 
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