huggybear0406 is offline huggybear0406 Post #1  November 10,2009, 11:33am
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Me and my boyfriend are planning on moving to a new city next summer. We’ve been best friends for over a year before we started dating.
The only problem is he wants to date other people when we move. We’ve never exchanged I Love You’s or what-not but he has talked about one day opening a bar together when we get settled. Should I go ahead and tell him to hit the bricks now so I can be less attached to him when both of us move or try and stick it out to see if he changes his mind? These mixed signals are rather confusing. We’ve even talked about moving in together sometimes and he spends every night at my place. What am I supposed to do?!
 
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nogamespls40 is offline nogamespls40 Post #2  November 10,2009, 9:24pm
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Why in the world would you move any where with this guy? Let alone tie up your money, credit and life with a guy that says when you move he wants to date other people. I don't see a man that is suppose to be your boyfriend, one who is suppose to actually care about you saying something like that. You are going to do what you want, but I honestly would not uproot myself and go anyway with this guy. You should know that you deserve so much better than that.
 
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huggybear0406 wrote :
Should I go ahead and tell him to hit the bricks now
Uhh....YEAH!!!!! If you need help, I will send you a bottle of "Scoundrel Be-Gone".
 
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take a break now.
 
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Lots of huge red flags here
 
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I can only echo what everyone else has said. Why would you want to uproot yourself for this guy at all?

A major rethink is needed!
 
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Moving to a new city is a fresh new start..
I would suggest you pack everything but HIM!

The signals are not mixed, actually they are pretty clear. I wouldn't say you're dating.. More like FWB.

I would also be cautious in opening any type of business with this FWB. if the good times come to a halt. So would the business!
 
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Thanks for all the feed back guys!

A bit of context I didn't put it before, the city we're moving to is my home town. My parents and family still lives in the area so it's not this huge moving process to some place I don't know at all.

Still, lots of red flags huh?
 
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Wow....so you are going to let this jerk use you and your resources while he goes and dates others? Really? What's wrong with you that you would even consider this as an option. Kick him to the curb and move on with your life and don't even consider moving with him anywhere.

Oh yea - you don't have a relationship, you have a friends with some benefits arrangement and a manipulative guy who is telling you what you want to hear in order to get his benefits.
 
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*shakes head*
 
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