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It normal we all feel like a hug sometimes just to know someone cares. I am lucky I have a good friend that I can get a hug from any time
- November 7th, 2009, 05:41 pm
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Quick fix for me is getting a massage, or if thats to expensive on a regular basis a mani/pedi. And yes, guys even you can do this.
- November 7th, 2009, 11:59 pm
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Annnnne wrote :
Quick fix for me is getting a massage, or if thats to expensive on a regular basis a mani/pedi. And yes, guys even you can do this.
Funny, along the lines of mokkiesofie's hairdresser comment....

I had a massage as a treat after finshing grad school. I hadn't had a boyfriend for more than six months, and that was a rather short term relationship, it had been a long time before that. I was really used to being single, spending lots of time alone, and working really hard. Even my job was rather solitary, I only had 3 co-workers at the time and saw them only a few times a week, if that.

Anyway, so I had a massage that week and for awhile I couldn't figure out why I was so uncomfortable to the point of almost being in full on tears (I think it actually did make me cry later). It brought up so many feelings, and since it was a woman doing the massage (and it was a gentle massage not the ones I typically like that are more focused on certain muscles and more forceful) it almost felt like I was a baby and my mom was taking care of me or something. It was the only type of 'touch' I could relate it to.

Of course then I realized that no one had touched me in months, felt like no one cared about me and I had major mom issues (we have a rocky relationship) and I just wanted to curl up in a ball and hide from the world.

It was terrible. Come to think of it, I don't think I have had a massage since! lol.

Anyway, kind of on the same topic. When I am used to being single the 'being held' thing doesn't get to me too bad....it's when I am in a relationship, like now that I get extremely lonely perhaps the day after we have been together. Then being alone seems magnfied. Perhaps now, a massage might be more useful! And not as depressing....lol.
- November 8th, 2009, 11:04 am
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Some people believe we store memories and experiences in our muscles (our tension) and so when you have a massage, it brings those memories up.

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As for me and massages, I store stress - specifically in my neck and shoulders. I used to get massages every six weeks just so I could move my head. That was not fun nor pleasurable. It was very painful but it did do the job.
- November 8th, 2009, 11:12 am
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yes, I prefer painful massages that get the job done!
- November 8th, 2009, 11:25 am
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I had one of those kind of massages. Actually it was right after my ex filed for divorce and a guy did it. I swear he kept rubbing himself on me. It was really ackward. Then when it was over (after I got dressed) he chatted with me a bit. I was really uncomfortable. It was at a very nice spa/salon not a seedy place. I have only had females massage me since then.
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- November 8th, 2009, 11:38 am
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Twisted mind or quipping man
- November 8th, 2009, 12:28 pm
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tjlpd wrote :
I had one of those kind of massages. Actually it was right after my ex filed for divorce and a guy did it. I swear he kept rubbing himself on me. It was really ackward. Then when it was over (after I got dressed) he chatted with me a bit. I was really uncomfortable. It was at a very nice spa/salon not a seedy place. I have only had females massage me since then.
HOW did he rub himself on you? I don't know what you mean.
- November 8th, 2009, 03:44 pm
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I definitely love to be held. I also love to hold the man I am close to in my arms as well (no one special in my life right now sadly). I think it's just human nature. I agree pillows do not work!!!
- November 8th, 2009, 04:00 pm
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I remember from some years ago one day in the comic strip "Calvin and Hobbes". I think the family's house had been burglarized recently. The husband was lying in bed afterward with his wife, his arms around her. She - with also thoughts of their son - felt so protected by him. Meanwhile he was thinking who's going to hold and protect himself.
- November 8th, 2009, 05:26 pm
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