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Dafearon is offline Dafearon Post #11  November 9,2009, 12:23pm
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All you have to do here is look inside yourself about what you want? Do you still pine for her? No. Do you want her back in your life? No. Was the breakup so bad where she betrayed you that bad that you can't forgive her? Sounds like a no. Are you the least bit curious about what happened to someone in your past that you were once in love with? Maybe?

Then meet up with her and see. The only reasons to not meet her is if you were still pining for her, or that she did something so unforgivable that you have no respect for her and will have any ever. Otherwise, take a glimpse into your past and remember the good times.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #12  November 9,2009, 1:37pm

what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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My ex and I had a difficult break up and had no contact for a little over a year. I missed him and I'm not entirely through to the other side yet! We are in fairly regular email contact, have been for around a month now. We have no plans to meet in the flesh and I think it'd be a bad idea for us.

We have been on and off and on and off for the best part of a decade but all indications suggest that he's properly moved on now. It's sad for me to acknowledge but acknowledging it is helping me to put it into perspective, value what we had and enjoy knowing that someone who used to love me still thinks very fondly of me.

No idea if any of this has any resonance with your story but that's what I'm getting out of renewed contact and for me, at least, it's all good.

Lots of luck with whatever you decide.
 
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My high school boyfriend just found me on Facebook and we spent some time catching up. We really didn't have a bad break-up, so there was no animosity to clean up, and we're both in relationships now. But it was kinda nice just hearing what he's been up to for the past decade. It's always good to hear that someone you cared about is happy and doing well.

I went through a very harsh break-up a little over three years ago. . .not sure how I'd feel about him contacting me. I don't think I would meet him for coffee. That might give my current boyfriend a heart attack. But, three years has definitely erased any anger or hurt that was there. I wouldn't mind hearing what he was up to, or how his family was doing. I would never reach out to him though - would be afraid of him getting the wrong impression.
 
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