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Video: Rihanna Breaks Her Silence! (Tears Up On When Speaking On Chris Brown Hitting Her)

I found this excerpt from the interview with Rhianna to be really interesting in particularly one respect:

-She blames herself for her situation, for "falling in love with that kind of person". I'd actually never heard a victim articulate that specifically -- I've heard them say they egged their abuser on, etc. (often convinced of that by the abuser), but never that they blamed themselves for falling in love.

Do you think many victims feel that way? If so is that part of why they stay in these abusive relationships far too long, often with deadly consequences?

Overall, do you think Rhianna's speaking out will have a much-needed impact on women currently living in a violent household?
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Oops, forgot to add a link to an article about this as well:

Rihanna speaks: 'Love is so blind' - CNN.com
- November 5th, 2009, 02:02 pm
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
Overall, do you think Rhianna's speaking out will have a much-needed impact on women currently living in a violent household?
No....there are psychological issues involved that cannot be cured by a suggestion from a pop singer. If it were that easy....siblings, parents and friends of victims would be eligible for Sainthood.
- November 5th, 2009, 04:13 pm
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Any and every two-party dynamic involves two parties.

It appears to be settled data that some persons choose to date aggressive / assaultive persons repetitively, implying a preference for such persons.
- November 5th, 2009, 04:31 pm
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I have absolutely no idea who this is.
- November 5th, 2009, 05:00 pm
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Yeah...what's a Rhianna?
- November 5th, 2009, 07:01 pm
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A celebrity, I think.
- November 5th, 2009, 07:05 pm
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A young singer (20ish). The ex-boyfriend is also a singer. The incident happened this past February one night before the Grammys. They were both scheduled to attend and/or perform but did not. Media blitz followed. Oprah even had something to say.Yes, I spend way too much time catching up on celebrity news...
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I think many victims - especially those who have fallen for other abusive men in the past - feel that way. They know on some rational level that they don't want to repeat the pattern of falling for the same type of guy, but then find themselves in the same situation.

I'm not sure that her speaking out will have much effect. Many women in abusive relationships feel they have no option but to stay - often because their self-esteem is so low they feel they wouldn't be able to make it on their own. They wouldn't equate Rhianna's circumstances in terms of financial resources, support systemes etc. with their own. In some cases it might even be discouraging to them to know that even someone who is so accomplished, attractive, and wealthy could have trouble leaving an abusive man. It might make their own circumstances even more daunting. On the plus side, for some, it might help them feel less worthless to recognize that even celebrities are not immune. So it might lead to an increase in women reporting abuse - but I don't think that would translate into an increase in women actually leaving.
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Overall, do you think Rhianna's speaking out will have a much-needed impact on women currently living in a violent household? [/i]
No because women in such situations need to be psychologically and emotionally ready to leave. A celebrity cannot evoke this through a tv interview. Her speaking out may have an impact on her young fans (adolescents) by opening a dialogue for discussion with their parents/teachers/friends about dating and violence.
- November 5th, 2009, 08:57 pm
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