The Truth and Nothing but the Truth

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Gobin is offline Gobin Post #31  January 25,2010, 8:57am
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How many guys do you think register in E-Harmony are married or have a girlfriend? I met one.
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ipsidoodle is offline ipsidoodle Post #32  January 13,2011, 11:18pm
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I think that instinct has not been proven statistically effective when it comes to judging whether someone is being dishonest or not. So, trusting one's instinct could prove wrong.  The signs of a dishonest person above, would also be the behavior of a  nervous date,: excessive talking, not looking you in the eyes or wandering eyes, protective body language, which are all very introverted, shy behaviors for some people and not indicitive of lying.  It is actually suggested by other relationship experts to not use gut instinct when determining honest, as it is so often false(so I think this articles and some of the other one's are some what wrong)
 
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leery_libra is offline leery_libra Post #33  February 3,2011, 11:35am
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A very sneaky form of lying is to omit information by way of a true, but deceitful answer.  Want to hear of couple of doozies?  A few years back, I didn't have the guts to ask a guy, straight-on, if he were married.  Instead, I asked:  "Can you tell me that you aren't involved with anyone?"  His response:  "Yes, I could tell you that."  I did a little research ... yep, married.  But I set myself up for HIS not being direct with me by asking an indirect question. Here's another - just this past week:  Me:  "I was worried that maybe you had a wife or fiancee."  Him:  "Nope.  No wife or fiancee."  The next day, I exchanged my noodle-spine for a real one, called him, and said:  "You said you didn't have a wife or fiancee.  How about just a plain, old, garden-variety girlfriend?"  Long silence.  Him:  "It's complicated."  Me:  "I'll take that as a yes."  Him:  "I'll e-mail you."  His e-mail apologized for the "misunderstanding" - mind you, he had made the first move - informed me that he had a girlfriend of 14 years who was "very important to him" and whom he "loved very much", and "please don't call or e-mail" him.  I repeat:  this guy made the first move, on me.I chose the I.D. name of "leery_libra".  It's more like "terminally disgusted with men_libra."  C'mon, guys ... I refuse to believe that you're all cheating, lying, duplicitous, passive-aggressive jerks.  But where ARE you??? 
 
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leery_libra is offline leery_libra Post #34  February 3,2011, 11:49am
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Gobin wrote :
How many guys do you think register in E-Harmony are married or have a girlfriend? I met one.
Gobin, that's a good question. Feeling as cynical as I do at the moment, I'd be tempted to say "Oh, 100%, give or take a couple percentage points." I hope I'm wrong. But I know one thing: private detectives could make a lot of dough by offering affordable, online services as an adjunct to e-harmony and other dating sites.
 
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soawesome is offline soawesome Post #35  February 4,2011, 1:51am
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FYI - while you're being cautious - Watch out for the divorced folks. By that I mean that I've discovered a lot men (more than i would have ever guessed) state they are divorced, but are really only separated. They after the discovery state it's because "women don't want to date separated men". Really?! No Kiddin'!? What a shocker!
 
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