Need advice

You are not wrong and I'm sorry about your mom's condition.

Both your friend and the guy she is persisting on forcing you to date sound very selfish and immature. It's all about what they want, how they see things without giving any regard or consideration whatsoever to what you are going through at the moment.

Go back and read your post - she is pushing you to date someone who you aready told her you are not interested in while knowing what kind of emotional trauma you are going through with your mom's cancer. The guy himself is equally selfish and sounds like a complete jerk who is only concerned about himself and his personal desires.

He should have called you directly and talked to you about all that is going on if he is truly that interested in you - it's called caring. He should give you space or offer a helping hand if you need anything - this is called being a good human being. Pitching a hissy fit and whining to your friends about you not seeing him.....he may be a lot of things, but nice is not one of them.

As a side note, dating your friend's bf's brother.....think about it. That's way too close - you'll always have her meddling in your relationship and you'll never have any privacy in your relationship if you were to develop one in the future for any reason. Personally I would stay away from something like that. That just seems like way too much constant drama. Something you are already experiencing.

DancingFool nailed it! And I will add, that from someone who's dad is going through a similar aggressive and rare cancer situation... I would think that any TRUE friends, or potential relationships would respect the fact that you were being with the people who need you most. We all need friends... BUT, we mostly need Good friends. Your mom and your family are priority #1 right now!!! bottom line. Your friend may eventually come around to realizing that she is in the wrong... In the meantime, just ignore her and focus on Family.

Sorry to hear about the situation.... I hope all goes as well as can be expected.

Ditto. These people are being very insensitive. Also, even if nothing were going on with your mom, your friend has no right to demand that you date her choice for you.

Focus on yourself and your mom right now.

I will say that in the process of my mother's death, I found that many people get very weird around death and do and say incredibly insensitive things. Other people -- sometimes even strangers -- come through in a spectacular way. Look for the people who can help you right now, and let the others go, for the time being. Later when life is more normal you can reconsider them if you want.

Wishing you the best with all this!