Is he interested in me or is this just a cultural difference?


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absinthe is offline absinthe Post #1  October 25,2009, 5:30pm
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hey all

I'm asian although I grew up in other country so I have
U.S and bits of other cultures all mixed up within myself.

I wanted some advice bec. I'm not totally sure if I am
getting the signs right or if this is a misunderstanding
caused by mistaking cultural difference.

I recently befriended a nice (Caucasian) guy who came to visit/experience my country. We sorta hit it off since we do
have lots in common in terms of way we think of certain
things and things that we enjoy talking about.

I told him about a nice restaurant in certain area and he
asked me if I could take him there. (we haven't gone to
the place just yet)

And recently, he asked me to the movies which would be
the second time that we meet in person.

he has lots of other friends and 'locals' who are really
nice to him to the extent that he would say that they
are spoiling him rotten.

I'm not sure if he is interested or that he enjoys my company
since not many of his 'local' friends are as fluent nor
as in sync with his (American) culture.

I would appreciate various advice on the matter.
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Psycue is offline Psycue Post #2  October 26,2009, 8:18pm
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Hmm I understand your position; however, I don't see it as a cultural difference. He has to enjoy your company because you have gone out more than once and the bonus for him is you are fluent and he does not have many friends who are there. Does he called these meetings a date?
Seems to be too early to tell right now.
I think you should just enjoy yourself for now as this is still new.
 
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kevin76 is offline kevin76 Post #3  October 27,2009, 6:35am
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Too early to tell. From what you say it could be that he just enjoys being with you because he can talk with you and you understand him. You say you befriended him 'recently' - how long have you known him? I would just enjoy spending time together and see how it goes. If he is interested he will make sure you know.
 
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I take a stab in that he in interested the culture in you ... it adds a facinating layer of intreigue.
 
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Best way to tell is by observing how he acts physically towards you. Does he tend to stand close to you? does he tend to lean in or closer to you to hear what you have to say?

Does he touch you at all (even innocently), say to protect you when you are walking through a crowd? Does he offer to help you with little things (like carry your things, or fix something for you that you are struggling with?)

Does he suggest that you get together for something that there really isn't any "practical" reason to get together?

Does he do things for you that he doesn't do for other people?

People's actions/behaviors always reveal everything. Good luck!

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