KungFuFtr is offline KungFuFtr Post #11  October 25,2009, 7:24pm
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Don't have him watch the 80's film "For Keeps" zzzzzzzzzzzzz. I think that was a staple for my high school's health classes.
 
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This is the parent's responsibility, not the school. The school system can teach some basic education, but most parents have some personal values associated with this that they will want to teach. Besides the fact that there are teachers out there that I really don't want teaching my children about these types of things. I have to wonder how many of us really learned this type of thing in school and how many at home....
 
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I have 3 sons ... anyway, I suggest, humm, how do I say this ... "ask him." It shoudn't be embassrassing. In fact next she at the supermarket she might buy a packet, and then give it to him Great conversation starter. And of course she should ask him if he knows who to put it on, and more importantly how to take it off. Their are pamphlets on the inside of the packet to help. But maybe she should have said all thisa while ago. Probably too late now. I bet he just says " ya, mum I know."
 
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Not her job, is she going to teach him how to put it on? That is the job of of a sexual educator in the public schools which teach both boys and girls how to have safe sex. She can ask him if he has learned in sex education how to have safe sex?

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Wow. Sorry Harvey, that is a scary response!

While it may be the JOB of an educator to teach sex ed (if you can call it that these days), it is absolutely the responsibility of the parent to make sure their children are armed with proper information and education; especially surrounding sex.

Yes, a parent needs to teach a boy how to use a condom!

But the question was, how should the woman approach the subject...

If she is unsure how to approach her son with a topic like this, she can:

1) Enlist a male family member/friend (preferrably the father if available) who has a strong relationship with the son.

2) Talk to the school counselor for suggestions.

3) Pick up one of the hundreds of parenting books on the subject.

4) Call me! I'll help!

But for goodness sake, don't leave it to the public schools to teach your children critical information on sexual health and education. (And I say that, not out of disrespect to educators, but out of disrespect for school systems that have watered down the sex ed cirriculum so badly that it is fairly useless)
 
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Harvey7 wrote :
Not her job, is she going to teach him how to put it on? That is the job of of a sexual educator in the public schools which teach both boys and girls how to have safe sex. She can ask him if he has learned in sex education how to have safe sex?

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I disagree, it's not a parents job to teach their children basic knowledge? Did i miss a meeting?

I work in a school and i can't count the number of kids who are problem students precisely because their parents have abdicated that responsibility and expect TV, teachers or social workers to raise their children for them.
The school i went to was strict, the head had no problem keeping the entire school in detention if one student was seen spitting in the street or didn't give up their seat to a pensioner on the bus, but he still expected parents to be doing their bit at home too, and you could bet he'd call them in to chew out if he thought they were failing their half of the educational contract.
 
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It's definitely the parents responsibility to talk to their children about this.

I had the "birds and bees" talk with my daughter and 2 sons when they were old enough to understand and I answered the questions they had.
When they started going out I sat down with them and explained how important it is to be safe and that if they were to shy to buy protection themselves, I would buy it for them and put it on their desk no questions asked.
 
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It is absolutely her job to talk to her son. It is any parent's job to talk to their sons and daughters. She can also get the child's father involved or a male relative or friend that she can trust if she feels too uncomfortable to do it. But I do not think it is the total responsibility or our schools. If they have a sex education program that is good - but the school is not going to be responsible if our kids end up pregnant or with some disease.

My parents never ever had a talk with me about sex. I approached my mother and begged her to inform me. She was too embarrassed to talk about it and refused. The funny thing is that after I became an adult I noticed that she never had a problem talking to other teenagers about sex. I had to learn from my 5th grade sex education class and from my goofy friends who didn't know any more than I knew. That is why I have always had open communication with my children about sex. I talk about abstinence first but I am realistic. I then talk about the dangers of having sex before you are ready and how they have to protect themselves. They get embarrassed about it. I don't care. I'd rather have embarrassed teenagers who are informed than just clam up and throw them to the wolves. Times are different now. When I was growing up the worse thing we worried about was getting pregnant or catching some curable STD. Now you can die from having sex. Parents - we cannot bury our heads in the sand about this.
 
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Not her job, is she going to teach him how to put it on? That is the job of of a sexual educator in the public schools which teach both boys and girls how to have safe sex. She can ask him if he has learned in sex education how to have safe sex?

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I must stand corrected, we are talking about someones son and most public schools teach physical education along with sex education and they are certified counselors. I believe that you must ad two elements to safe sex equation
(1) is daughters and (2) masturbation. Are you going to supply your daughters with rubbers regulars and the ones for enhanced pleasure with the ticklers and ridges built in?
Who is going to discuss the best way to achieve to achieve a climax? Do your daughters have the same rights as your sons? or is a certified counselor the best way to go? I have more questions but let's start with these.

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I have very blunt conversations with my 16 year old. And of course he can get embarrassed, but if he thinks he's mature enough to have sex, then he can also have the conversations that come with it.
 
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Are you going to supply your daughters with rubbers regulars and the ones for enhanced pleasure with the ticklers and ridges built in?
Who is going to discuss the best way to achieve to achieve a climax?
Now you're just just being ridiculous. Not worth taking the bait.
 
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