maylay11 is offline maylay11 Post #1  October 19,2009, 4:15pm
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I met a guy about two and a half years ago at a party. We ended up crashing in the same bed, kissing a few times. After that, we saw each other twice and it was just a harmless hang-out situation. For the past two years, we've remained friends by texting every so often and I see him maybe once every 5 months. He recently invited me to a party, where it was obvious we had sexual tension, but nothing amounted because i was only there for about an hour or so. After I left, we talked for 3 hours about what we always talk about- sex. This guy is most definitely my friend, and it's obvious that we both want to take it to the next level, but not persue anything more than a sexual-friendship relationship. What should be my next move?
 
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That's easy! If all you both want is sex... go ahead and have sex.

But it will change your friendship. Since all you do is talk about sex with this guy, maybe it won't change all that much.

Just talk before hand about some ground rules, and what happens if either one of you starts dating someone else. Also, talk about STDs and get tested... both of you.... and be sure they include herpes in the testing (it is NOT automatic that they do so).
 
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Join the seminary and become a nun.

That, or what WonderWoman wrote.
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
That's easy! If all you both want is sex... go ahead and have sex.

But it will change your friendship. Since all you do is talk about sex with this guy, maybe it won't change all that much.

Just talk before hand about some ground rules, and what happens if either one of you starts dating someone else. Also, talk about STDs and get tested... both of you.... and be sure they include herpes in the testing (it is NOT automatic that they do so).
Absolutely!

As I said / inferred:
If you don't WANT to have sex DON"T
If you expect ANYTHING in return, that makes you (by definition) a PROSTITUTE. Don't act surprised when the other party treats you like one and leaves when they get what they "paid" for. Those who do so are not "poofers", they are "John's" (and you are the prostitute).

Love, by definition, includes GIVING of yourself... not TRADING.
If you want to play games (making him wait), you are making the whole thing a game. Be ready to play a game in which you have no idea what the rules are (and don't be surprised when he treats it like a game instead of a heart felt relationship).
 
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Make him produce a letter from his Doctor that he has no deceases that are sexual in nature that are transmittable to you. He is sleeping with other people, who are also sleeping with others, so better safe then sorry!

A romantic dinner and make a reservation to go to a nice hotel with room service, let him wine and dine you after all he's not paying for it? Safe sex and have fun.
On 2nd. thought make a weekend of it get show tickets and have fun.

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Harvey7 wrote :
Make him produce a letter from his Doctor that he has no deceases that are sexual in nature that are transmittable to you. He is sleeping with other people, who are also sleeping with others, so better safe then sorry!
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Two way street.... one might ask her the last time she was tested. A person only needs to sleep with one to get infected, and I don't think she mentioned that she is a virgin. (Yes I have been tested after each "mate." I try to be careful and volunteer my test results.)
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olneyjeeps wrote :
Absolutely!

As I said / inferred:
If you don't WANT to have sex DON"T
If you expect ANYTHING in return, that makes you (by definition) a PROSTITUTE. Don't act surprised when the other party treats you like one and leaves when they get what they "paid" for. Those who do so are not "poofers", they are "John's" (and you are the prostitute).

Love, by definition, includes GIVING of yourself... not TRADING.
If you want to play games (making him wait), you are making the whole thing a game. Be ready to play a game in which you have no idea what the rules are (and don't be surprised when he treats it like a game instead of a heart felt relationship).
Was this in reference to another thread? because it seems to be quite unrelated to anything in the OP or Wonderwoman's response to it.
 
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olneyjeeps wrote :
Two way street.... one might ask her the last time she was tested. A person only needs to sleep with one to get infected, and I don't think she mentioned that she is a virgin. (Yes I have been tested after each "mate." I try to be careful and volunteer my test results.)
Boy oh' Boy you post makes me feel itchy, have to go wash, be back soon.

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