Is this creepy behavior on my part.


Reply
  • Page 1 of 2
  • 1
  • 2
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
justme27 is offline justme27 Post #1  October 15,2009, 8:46pm
justme27's Avatar

There I put up a darn avatar is everyone happy! T.S. Eliot very pretentious

Veteran

Joined: Feb 2009

Somewhere in that crazy place for all the crazy people called California

Posts: 1,067

See profile

So back in college I had a crush on a girl, I think she may have had some interest in me. However, at the time I was so focused on my studies that I never attempted to actually start a relationship with her--I sort of just kept the fact that I had a huge crush on her in the inside.

Well, in the Friendfinder on Facebook her name popped up as someone it would suggest I become friends with. I haven't seen this girl in six years. But during that time I had a real rough period in my life dealing with psychological problems. I remember e-mailing her something odd but I can't remember what it was.

So I'm sitting in front of my computer thinking, should I attempt to contact this person? And if so for what reason? The reason I came up with was to apologize for my odd behavior and thank her for pointing it out to me before even my own family did. I don't expect a response back. But I just figure it would be a nice gesture.

So, is this creepy behavior or perfectly acceptable behavior. Be honest, don't worry I won't take it personally.
 
  Reply With Quote
sqg123 is offline sqg123 Post #2  October 15,2009, 8:52pm
sqg123's Avatar

Enthusiast

Joined: Apr 2008

Posts: 521

See profile

Creepy
 
  Reply With Quote
mari3434 is offline mari3434 Post #3  October 15,2009, 8:57pm
mari3434's Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Oct 2009

Posts: 196

See profile

I would find such a response so odd that it would appear creepy. Further, it will only accentuate your prior odd behaviour that you are hoping she has forgotten.

Anyways, my two cents
 
  Reply With Quote
justme27 is offline justme27 Post #4  October 15,2009, 8:58pm
justme27's Avatar

There I put up a darn avatar is everyone happy! T.S. Eliot very pretentious

Veteran

Joined: Feb 2009

Somewhere in that crazy place for all the crazy people called California

Posts: 1,067

See profile

Damn, thanks for the reply. Sorry it was just too tempting. Her profile was there...I was bored...I was procrastinating...and then I thought well give it a try. Bad decision. Won't do it again.
 
  Reply With Quote
TracyBluebird is offline TracyBluebird Post #5  October 15,2009, 8:58pm
TracyBluebird's Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Oct 2009

Posts: 123

See profile

Say something like:
justme27 wrote :

The reason I came up with was to apologize for my odd behavior and thank you for pointing it out to me before even my own family did. I remember e-mailing you something odd but I can't remember what it was. I don't expect a response back, but wanted to let you know what an impact your honesty had on my recovery from a difficult time.
What could it hurt?

As far as creepy, it probably depends on what you said...but it if you say "I remember emailing you something odd, but I don't remember. " it really doesn't matter. It would give you some closure on the situation.
 
  Reply With Quote
justme27 is offline justme27 Post #6  October 15,2009, 9:00pm
justme27's Avatar

There I put up a darn avatar is everyone happy! T.S. Eliot very pretentious

Veteran

Joined: Feb 2009

Somewhere in that crazy place for all the crazy people called California

Posts: 1,067

See profile

TracyBluebird wrote :
Say something like: What could it hurt?

As far as creepy, it probably depends on what you said...but it if you say "I remember emailing you something odd, but I don't remember. " it really doesn't matter.
Actually, that is almost exactly verbatim what I wrote. But still I did it impulsively. What I would really like from her is, "I understand and I forgive you." But that's probably not going to happen. I won't do it again.
 
  Reply With Quote
justme27 is offline justme27 Post #7  October 15,2009, 9:07pm
justme27's Avatar

There I put up a darn avatar is everyone happy! T.S. Eliot very pretentious

Veteran

Joined: Feb 2009

Somewhere in that crazy place for all the crazy people called California

Posts: 1,067

See profile

Actually, in my defense. That is the creepiest thing I've ever done. So if that is the case I can't be too bad off right?
 
  Reply With Quote
TracyBluebird is offline TracyBluebird Post #8  October 15,2009, 9:19pm
TracyBluebird's Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Oct 2009

Posts: 123

See profile

justme27 wrote :
Actually, in my defense. That is the creepiest thing I've ever done. So if that is the case I can't be too bad off right?
Beside, if you acknowledge it was creepy, at least you know instead of being clueless! THAT would be creepy! That was my ex, a narcissist, and he just creeps through life like a snake! You are past it, acknowledged it, "confessed it" to the person, and now you can move!

Worrying is like rocking in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but you don't get anywhere.

Get on with your life. I think saying something open ended will at least let you let it go somewhat instead of the "what if" insanity that would plague you otherwise. Besides, it's a post, it's not like you are showing up at her frontdoor with a box of chocolates. THAT would be creepy!
 
  Reply With Quote
Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #9  October 15,2009, 9:23pm

Veteran

Joined: Mar 2009

East Coast

Posts: 1,079

See profile

Wrong, CREEPY!
Just send her a nice note that I saw you on Face book and I just wanted to say hello. I do recall you being very nice to me back then and I was painfully shy, But I've grown up and life is pretty good for me, I'm a Graphic Artist or an Engineer, etc. yata yata , Keep it nice!How are things going for you? and wait for a reply, if none comes it means that she is taken and find someone else.

Harvey7.
 
  Reply With Quote
Raw_Truth is online now Raw_Truth Post #10  October 18,2009, 6:20pm
Raw_Truth's Avatar

Veteran

Joined: Nov 2008

Posts: 1,496

See profile

Yeah, contacting her was fine, but you should have left it with just the invite (i.e., no personal message). If she accepted, you know that she wasn't too creeped out, or perhaps doesn't even remember.

Fact is, when at that age people do all sorts of weird/kooky/strange stuff. Now that you're both out of school you and on with life, unless it was SUPER creepy, you'd probably either laugh it off or each silently ignore it knowing that that happens at that age.

But now you've blown it in that you gave her reason to remember, and further gave her good reason to believe you're still kinda that way (and maybe you are?).

Either way, don't sweat it. If she responds, don't apologize, don't agonize, etc., just pretend as if it never happened. If she doesn't respond, well, you have your answer (and a lesson learned).
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 1 of 2
  • 1
  • 2


« Does "love" [for each other] conquer all? | Relationships | My boyfriend wants space: What should i do? »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
I've had ENOUGH!!! What will it take?? PART 2 - FOLLOW UP cappagirl Dating 36 October 16,2009 4:08pm
Is this creepy or CREEPY !!? hogrally AAA Completely Stupid Conversations 42 October 4,2009 8:01am
wondering what part of a woman catches a man's eye first Nylit Ask a Dating Expert 41 September 20,2009 5:22pm
Which is the most frustrating part of Eharmony? passat1 Using eHarmony 12 August 14,2009 5:33am

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“ ^This is the better plan.. My experience has been that love usually comes along when you least expect it, and when your heart is open enough to let it in. If you try to put a set time table on when ... ” –  TheThinker

Join the “Transition from dating to relationship” discussion

“ As Ingy mentions ...he's good with the lines and multitasking relationships.. All anyone can say is: don't get played again...especially by the same guy twice... Move on to someone who is decisive ... ” –  lynntlb78

Join the “Reuniting with EX” discussion

“This varies based on your age, gender, location, settings, and 29 dimensions. My settings are fairly narrow and I've always gotten a steady stream of matches. But, my location seems to have a lot ... ” –  dmi

Join the “Different Strategy” discussion

“I'm extremely allergic to cats, plus I just don't like 'em. So I won't date someone with cats. Dogs, I love. But I'm attracted to certain types of dogs. A guy with a little yorkie turns me off. ... ” –  ZisaGirl

Join the “What about a "PET BOX" ?? again this sounds simple or??” discussion

“If you get the opportunity, yes.” –  ThePriestess

Join the “Should I ever date in college?” discussion

“...and since you're Shaun Cassidy fan mitchell...this song is just for you! "Da Doo Ron Ron" I met her on a Monday And my heart stood still Da doo ron ron ron Da doo ron ron Somebody told me That ... ” –  legend29

Join the “Robin Gibbs Dead at 62...How Deep is Your Love?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 9:00am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0