Long time reader..first time poster . I always enjoy reading all the great advice those on here provide so I thought maybe this time I can use some myself.

I was dating a guy I met online for about 2 months until he recently started withdrawing from me and then eventually ended things. To give you some background, we hit it off immediately and often commented to one another that it was quite strange but nice how we connected to well. We both discussed how we have had countless dates that went nowhere because we are both fairly picky and friends always commenting that our expectations were too high. So we were both relieved and surprised to see we thought we found exactly what we were both looking for in each other and had an instant connection. From the very first date throughout the 2 months, we spent about 4 days each week together, had several sleep overs, talked/texted throughout the days, were intimate and introduced and hung out with each of our friends and family members a few times. Things seemed to be wonderful. He often texted me the nicest most beautiful texts that he was so happy he met me and so glad we were in each other's live.

Here's the red flag (and the only one I really ever saw in him)...he mentioned to me early on that he had major commitment and trust issues as a result from a poor childhood and bad ex girlfriends. On more than 1 occasion he did say to me that he broke up with girls for dumb reasons or that I should not say too many serious relationship things to him because he "could run the other way". He never said these things to me in a serious convo, more just in passing comments so I guess I didn't take them as seriously as I should have. And anyway, I wasn't seeing any signs of him having commitment issues being that things were so great with us.

I know it was only 2 months, but based on how things were going, things were moving quickly and smoothly and I was really thinking this might be "the one". Of course because hindsight is 20/20, I also see now, some other things that were probably red flags. He often liked staying very close to home when making plans, stressed out easily over plans if they didn't go as planned, had difficulty making decisions or dealing with my indecisiveness about random things like what to have for dinner, suffered severely with sleep deprivation etc. None of this stuff really bothered me because it seemed like small issues in the big picture.

Over the 2 months, aside from all the time we spent together, long convo's etc...he made a few random comments that made me think he also saw a possible future between us...1. once when discussing our decorating differences, he said to me "you can decorate the guest bathroom and I will decorate the one nobody sees". 2. Another time we were playing tennis and I commented that I wanted my children to grow up playing tennis. He is very into moto-cross sports. He responded "they will play tennis and moto-cross riding". 3. He many times asked me questions that I knew were issues that were important for him in his life i.e. making sure I was okay with him one day having a big dog since he likes them but knows I am scared of them, making sure I don't ever want to move out of state etc. I also told him I was afraid to say this but wanted him to know I loved him and he replied that he loved me too but added "for as much as someone could love someone in 2 months". Which I agree..I wasn't in love with him but as a person, love him.

Sorry for the long background but I think it was important so you have the whole picture. So fast forward to the 7th week of our relationship, he lost his job. For the next 2 weeks I definitely noticed all the "red flags" that I mentioned above becoming higher. He was easily agitated with me, didnt want to go out etc. I was trying to be there for him and tell him everything will work out etc but he started to slowly withdraw from me. It started with him not wanting to see me one weekend and telling me to just make plans without him (this is after seeing him every weekend since we first started dating so it was a bit alarming), then telling me he would hang out and then just not call and when we'd talk later he would just say that I should have realized we weren't hanging out once it got too late into the night (this is coming from the same guy that before this, would call me if his battery was low just to let me know in case I needed him and his phone died).

This went on for about 3 weeks of him acting this way towards me and continuing to pull away and me trying to talk to him about what was going on. He became very closed off and completely shut down. He basically says he has no answers for me but he needs to work on himself. He said him losing his job has a lot to do with it and he realized once he lost his job that he isn't happy with himself so he can't make me happy. He said his issues issues (which he never directly told me what those issues are so I can only assume he's referring to his commitment and trust issues) are too personal to talk about with me and he doesn't know me and doesn't trust me. He said I don't know him either and he doesn't know how to be in a real relationship and he will eventually ruin things between us. This has been devastating to me because I thought things were going so well between us and this came out of nowhere.

It's now been a little more than a month since he officially ended things but we were still talking occasionally on the phone. We haven't seen one another though since he first started to withdraw because he just refused to make plans with me. I have tried to be there for him over these last few weeks but he doesn't seem to care or want my help. The positive thing is that he immediately started seeing a therapist when this all started. But he has now told me to move on and that he isnt the right one for me and vice versa. Of course I continued to press him for more answers or explanation but he can't/doesn't give me any. He said I said all the right things in the beginning but he doesn't know if they were real and that I said certain things in the beginning but he realized I'm not who he thought I was in the beginning and that he has no feelings for me anymore other than thinking I'm a great person. This all sounds like craziness to me but I've never dealt with someone with commitment issues. I can't believe that someone that was intimate with me and had conversations about the future could turn on me and tell me they don't trust me. Especially considering I KNOW I am very trustworthy and think he is shutting out the wrong person.

At this point, we ended things on the phone with me very upset and him apologizing, saying he cares for me but to move on. We agreed to be friends and he said he would call me "someday".

So I guess my question is, did I read too much into this relationship and his comments about the future, his texts, all the time we spent together etc? Or do you think this all sounds like someone with commitment issues?

Apologize for the length of this but appreciate the feedback...