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Sawyer76 is offline Sawyer76 Post #1  October 7,2009, 6:25pm
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I really want to reach out to my ex boyfriend who has been going through a very difficult time right now in his life. We havent spoken in a few weeks because he is just struggling with life issues, work, family problems etc. I want him to know in a simple way that I still care and think about him and was going to send a text. This seems simple enough but then I started thinking (probably too much so) about whether the certain choice of sentence could be misinterpreted the wrong way by another person. Which sentence do you think is better to say "I think about you all the time" or "you are always on my mind" or just "i miss you". Maybe I am putting too much analysis into this but just want to make sure it doesn't come across like 1. psycho, 2. stalker or 3. desperate. thanks for the 2 cents!
 
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I'm a firm believer in a phone call or face to face exchange, especially when reaching out to someone going through a difficult time. Text and e mails are so impersonal and so easily misinterpreted. If you're concerned about making "unwelcomed" contact call at a time you know his voicemail will pick up. If he returns the call you have your answer, and if he doesn't you also have your answer.
 
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I'm intentionally not calling and only sending a text specifically because our convos send to get too "messy" right now. We are both going through a lot because of the economy, loss of jobs, family problems etc and we plant o talk and see one another again at some point but right now, our convos never seem to go as intended. I'd rather just lend moral support via a simple text if that makes any sense. He knows very well that I am here for him & vice versa. This text isn't meant for me to find out if he still cares etc..just to let him know Im still here for him..which I know he knows already but...
 
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Agree completely with previous comment. Pick up the phone and call. If he answers, you can be brief and say "Just calling to check in and let you know I'm thinking about you."---text and e-mails don't do it--at least for me as much as a phone call.
 
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I appreciate the advice but really only want to send the text and am just looking for some general advice as to whether one of those text lines sounds better than the other?
 
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How about doing something really old school. Find an appropriate card or even better a nice blank one and send him a real note.
 
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He is staying with a friend and I do not know their address
 
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How about something like, "I was thinking about you today, hope things are getting better."
 
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