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text him...
I hope everything is okay.. your always on my mind
- October 7th, 2009, 10:40 pm
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VB_Girl wrote :
How about something like, "I was thinking about you today, hope things are getting better."
I like this idea... especially the first part.

Your 3 choices are, in a way, more about you & what you are going through in reference to him.
- October 7th, 2009, 10:57 pm
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I would send him a fruit basket something nice, try the Indian River Fruit company or Davids fruits in Washington with a note: Need a friend to share it with? and sign it and ad in your cell # as well. Actions speak louder then words. If nothing else he'll associate you with a sweetness.

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- October 8th, 2009, 01:12 am
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They are each a good choice, but probably "you are always on my mind" is the best one. But be sure you're sincere, before you act. And be sure he's interested and ready to forgive you. The reason you gave for not communicating with him, currently, might simply be an excuse he gave you. But you need to discuss this possibility and other matters with him, soon as possible!
- October 8th, 2009, 12:45 pm
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I think that you should just tell him that you are there if he needs someone to talk to, unless you are wanting to get back with him. "I think about you all the time" is very misleading.
- October 8th, 2009, 07:08 pm
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If you know the friend, you can get the address. Or have a mutual friend give the card to him. And no, not hallmark, the best is just a pretty note card with your own words.
- October 8th, 2009, 07:48 pm
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Sawyer76 wrote :
I really want to reach out to my ex boyfriend who has been going through a very difficult time right now in his life. We havent spoken in a few weeks because he is just struggling with life issues, work, family problems etc. I want him to know in a simple way that I still care and think about him and was going to send a text. This seems simple enough but then I started thinking (probably too much so) about whether the certain choice of sentence could be misinterpreted the wrong way by another person. Which sentence do you think is better to say "I think about you all the time" or "you are always on my mind" or just "i miss you". Maybe I am putting too much analysis into this but just want to make sure it doesn't come across like 1. psycho, 2. stalker or 3. desperate. thanks for the 2 cents!
If you want to reach out to him in his time of difficulty then none of the messages is appropriate. You are talking about yourself and how you feel. Talk about him and how he feels. Something like how are things would be far more appropriate.
- October 8th, 2009, 09:14 pm
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You can send him sms and say whatever you want (if you wanna tell him you still love him, go ahead nothing wrong with it).

Note: This advise is only applicable if he doesn't have a Gf or if you don't have a BF. Otherwise its totally inappropriate and he wouldn;t need your concern.
- October 11th, 2009, 08:40 pm
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Sawyer76 wrote :
This seems simple enough but then I started thinking (probably too much so) about whether the certain choice of sentence could be misinterpreted the wrong way by another person.
I'm more than a little concerned about this part of your post ...what other "person" would be misinterpreting what you text to him? If he's involved with someone else ...

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Maybe I am putting too much analysis into this but just want to make sure it doesn't come across like 1. psycho, 2. stalker or 3. desperate. thanks for the 2 cents!
Honestly, any communication at this point - this early (I'm assuming it's a fairly recent breakup as you can't talk to him yet without things getting "messy") - is going to sound like you are 1. psycho, 2. stalker, and 3. desperate ...at the very least, it's going to appear that you are feeling him out to see if he's still thinking about you.

I actually wouldn't send anything, but that might just be me. You said he already knows you still 'care' for him - and he obviously knows where to find you if he needs your 'support' - yet, he isn't knocking on your door to ask for any. You should let that sink in for a moment.
- October 11th, 2009, 11:25 pm
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nightling wrote :
If you want to reach out to him in his time of difficulty then none of the messages is appropriate. You are talking about yourself and how you feel. Talk about him and how he feels. Something like how are things would be far more appropriate.
There is another way of looking at this, you are his ex.girl friend and if he wanted you, he would call so stay out of it! Your txt. msg. will get deleted, what could you possibly do to comfort him? NADA! Beat it and stop trying to put yourself where you were thrown out!

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- October 12th, 2009, 08:25 am
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