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Sanders is offline Sanders Post #1  October 2,2009, 1:45pm
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If you and your LTP have different sex drives (woman can go for weeks/man barely a few days..that's probably more of the norm than vice versa), what are the most likely methods to get your female partner to be in the mood when you "prefer" them to?

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- SO doesn't have any chemical, hormonal, drug issues causing low libido
- no pity-sex...actually has to be put in-the-mood

- assume you haven't had sex at least for a few days

~$20 max. budget to work with (no day-spas or Carribean getaways...we're talking about a hot Wednesday night romp after kids are put to bed)

So ladies, if we were to rank the best methods, with most useless strategies/methods that husbands/boyfriends could do to get you in the mood on a given random day of the week, what would they be?
 
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(woman can go for weeks/man barely a few days..that's probably more of the norm than vice versa)
Seriously? You really believe that women can go weeks? Hmmmm...
 
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Clean the house from top to bottom and have dinner on the table (with dishes done and put away) when I get home from work. That would work.
 
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I could give you a better list of what not to do.

1. don't ask / (or complain)if were going to have sex (it sounds like your begging).

2. If your not the romantic type to begin with don't start now I know what you want I'll enjoy the flowers and dinner and then fall asleep.

3. I have a fast pace critical thinking job to put me in the mood deal with the day to day stuff before I get home. I don't want to think once I get home.

4. When I walk in the door greet me with a kiss and hug. Give me a few minutes to unwind and have dinner planned. Doesn't mean you have to cook it. Just decide what were going to eat. Help clean up and..................I'll take it from there.
 
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"2. If your not the romantic type to begin with don't start now I know what you want I'll enjoy the flowers and dinner and then fall asleep."

And whatever you do...do not let a woman eat a lot of carbs for that dinner or she will fall asleep (carbs + estrogen= sleep).
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #6  October 2,2009, 7:18pm
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brixjnz wrote :
Clean the house from top to bottom and have dinner on the table (with dishes done and put away) when I get home from work. That would work.
The problem is....after he's done this once or twice it will occur to you that you have a powerful weapon in your hands and can get him to work on command.
 
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Sanders wrote :
what are the most likely methods to get your female partner to be in the mood when you "prefer" them to?
Divorce papers. It's win-win. Either her attitude will change very fast (and they often do), or she will soon be irrelevant.

She's taking you for granted. Time for her to decide if she wants you or not. Don't give her an ultimatum, don't do drama. Retain a divorce lawyer & get the machinery rolling...close down mutual accounts, start dividing expenses, and be as cold as concrete.
 
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Oh, one more thing.

If you live in a no-fault divorce state, you can have a harem of biblical proportions & it won't affect alimony or property division one bit.

Get a girlfriend. I'm sure that will get her attention.
 
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Right; nothing like divorce papers and cheating to turn a woman on.
 
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voteoften is offline voteoften Post #10  October 2,2009, 9:15pm
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Start in the morning, at least. Be sweet when you part. Maybe bring up some fond memory. Give her a call from/to work and ask if you can pick up anything on the way home from work. Ask hr if she'd like a treat of some sort - chght ask chocolate, special coffeee, wine, whatever. When you see each other that night ask her about her day. Tell her something interesting about yours or some time during the day when something reminded you of her. Touch her as you walk past. Compliment her and tell her how lucky you are. Snuggle up later (if she likes that), don't ask for sex unless she is in the mood. Next day, do it all again. Then see if she is interested in sex.

I have been dating my man for a year and am a bit chagrined that three times a day love appears to be at an end. I am lucky to get it twice. I have a secet though. My BF wkes up and often can't get back to sleep. I tell him a nice quickie will do the trick and it does.
 
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