Falling in love: exciting or scary?


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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  September 26,2009, 7:00pm
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When you feel yourself starting to fall, are you frantically clawing for something to slow your descent (i.e. are you scared) or do you dive in head first (excited?)

Is it the same experience for you each time or has it been different every time?
 
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Fantastic & not scary at all.
 
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yoga_gal is offline yoga_gal Post #3  September 26,2009, 7:25pm
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When I am falling it is pretty amazing! It has not always been the same experience. I think that falling after a relationship in which you were hurt can make it a little more scary each time.
 
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It's always amazing and exciting! If I'm falling, it's for good reason, and it doesn't scare me at all.
 
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I have only loved twice in my life. The first time I just went with it, the second time I held back for quite a while before surrendering totally to the feelings.
 
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Both sensations are charged and driven by the same adrenalin. The only variable is the woman I'm with.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #7  September 27,2009, 9:44am

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The last time I fell in love I didn't even know it had happened.

We were friends and colleagues, had been for a year, never entered my head it was anything more. We were working away from home and were sat eating in a bar, I'd told some stupid story about when I was kid and we laughed till tears were streaming down our faces. I went to the bathroom and as I washed my hands I looked at myself in the mirror and bam! Realised I was in love with him.

For all sorts of reasons I tried to ignore it but when we did finally have that "talk" it turns out that the same thing had happened to him a couple of months before.

So no time to be scared. It was an amazing, great big, haphazard love affair in so many ways and sadly, very sadly it's over now.

What scares me these days is that it won't happen again.
 
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ALWAYS exciting & amazing! Not scary at all! I think it would only be scary if you weren't ready for it!
 
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Love is the most wonderful feeling out of all the feelings. I'm surprised more people don't jump in head first.
 
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Hmmm... I think there is a reason it is called "falling" in love...
Ever jumped out of an airplane?
Can be the most exhilarating feeling ever
Really sucks when you found that you may have made a bad jump decision or found that in rushing you packed wrong
If you survive having made a mistake, making that next jump is a hard one, which can cause you to be obsessive about making sure EVERYTHING is perfect, which can lead to aborting for good or bad reasons.
Once you start jumping again you may wonder why you ever quit and become complacent and all of the sudden, SMACK!!!!
Or if everything is done right, unbelievable screams of joy.

Betting analogy:
It's not scary when only betting pennies
Betting the farm, losing it and having to build up a stake adds to the thrill of making that "big bet" again
some people never will and will settle for pennies or just watching or
waiting, waiting, waiting and when the time is right, ALL IN!

If it's not scary for you, you are either not that bright or not risking that much
 
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