Divorced folks: do you still believe in marriage?


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To answer this question you first have to understand the definition of "marriage" in its many venues.

IN THE EYES OF THE LAW, marriage is an economic and financial partnership between two individuals. It's a business partnership in the business of life. PERIOD, END OF DISCUSSION. To understand this clearly, go spend a few days as a spectator in divorce court. I highly recommend this to everyone, whether they're considering marriage or not, because it will open your eyes to how our legal system has perverted and corrupted marriage into being a cash-cow. The bottom line, and that's ALL that matters, is M-O-N-E-Y. If you're fortunate enough to witness some pathetic heartbroken soul crying to the judge about love and family (other than child-support issues) you'll see how the judge reams their pathetic heartbroken arse out and orders them to shut up and sit down or be fined and forcibly removed from the courtroom. If you're more fortunate, you'll be able to hear the lawyers laughing their arses off about all pathetic heartbroken souls they're taking to the cleaners, and how much they love to bask in all the misery. And if you're truly fortunate, you'll hear the court officers saying how they'd rather be in criminal court with all the violent felons because there's far less misery there.

I was formerly the dumbest person on Earth; I stupidly thought marriage was all about love and family. Now I know better, and my education was VERY expensive. My lawyer's attitude was/is: If you have a problem with marriage law take it up with your politicians, otherwise shut up and suck it up. And, ignorance of the law is not a viable defense.

Here's the bottom line: NEVER marry without a solid prenup, unless you're a glutton for punishment, because a prenup is a couple's insurance policy against lawyers, judges and politicians. (Unless of course you enjoy "intercourse" with these people.) Another way to think of a prenup is as the last rites and testament or will of marriage. Just as it's foolish not to have a will, it's foolish not to have a prenup. Divorce without a prenup is like an estate going into probate; only the lawyers win.

Now, "Would I marry again?" you're probably wondering. To the right woman, with a prenup, ABSOLUTELY without hesitation. I want to marry HER, not lawyers, judges and politicians. I want US to decide what happens if, whatever forbid, our partnership should fail because it's our partnership, our lives, and our decision.

I think marriage should be ONLY about love and family, and NEVER about money. Money should be just a beneficial side-effect; icing or even just sprinkles on the cake. No one other than the married couple should EVER profit from marriage because doing so is, IMHO, a MORTAL SIN (and I'm not even religious!)
 
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