I would add one more an agenda. Some women look for a man they can control and he does not have an space. One of the questions I am asked is do I have my own activities. Women forget there is a guy life too. The world does not center around the ladies agenda only. In the guided communications when the question of time spending together you do not give the lady the answer she wants your toast. I find that eharmony is a hit or mis. more mis. As I stated while your reading the womens read about me they are looking for somebody else at your expense. Let the games begin and good luck. PWR
I would add one more an agenda. Some women look for a man they can control and he does not have an space. One of the questions I am asked is do I have my own activities. Women forget there is a guy life too. The world does not center around the ladies agenda only. In the guided communications when the question of time spending together you do not give the lady the answer she wants your toast. I find that eharmony is a hit or mis. more mis. As I stated while your reading the womens read about me they are looking for somebody else at your expense. Let the games begin and good luck. PWR
Well, I don't know about all women, but myself and my girl friends can say that to control a guy is farthest from our minds. If I wanted to find a guy I could control, I'd look for a weaker person. I need a equal, as well as, my friends. Also, girls want girls nights, so guys of course deserve guys nights. I don't want to watch the sports on t.v. or work on the car, and I'm sure they don't want to get their nails done or shop for shoes...and if they did I'd have other questions.
I don't know what women you are meeting, but my guess is they don't have much of their owns lives and/ or, possibly aren't very educated (in the common sense department) on how to make a relationship last.
Oh, and to the eharmony question...when I answer it, I say I want one night a week to myself. However, I've been quite happy with more time to myself, I just wouldn't want less. When I look at how a guy answers it, I don't want any answer...but the truth so I can make my own judgement call. If one lies in the answer, then you already getting off on a bad foot.
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Well, I don't know about all women, but myself and my girl friends can say that to control a guy is farthest from our minds. If I wanted to find a guy I could control, I'd look for a weaker person. I need a equal, as well as, my friends. Also, girls want girls nights, so guys of course deserve guys nights.
I agree. Seriously, if I want a relationship where I can be in charge of everything then I'll go to the shelter and get a dog.
Men (and women) also need time to have an identity separate from their work and love life. As long as you can trust the guy and he's around more often than not, what's the big deal? If you can't trust him to do the right thing, then you shouldn't be with him.
And the fastest way to make a guy want to go out with his buddies is raking him over the coals when he does. It's much more effective to give him a good reason to come home early than to harp at him for going in the first place.
As usual with these eHA articles with a numbered listing of things, half of them don't make any sense. Right off the bat, the first two points are NOT about sabotaging a relationship, but about sabotaging yourself from starting a relationship with someone compatible--there is not relationship.
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#1. You’ve refused to go out with a guy because he didn’t fit your perfect picture of Mr. Right.
#2. You’ve judged a guy based solely on looks, and ignored the fact that he had a great personality.
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